I am a 9th grader and I’m feeling quite lonely. I have no friends at all no one wants to talk to me I also get humiliated by teachers in the class. I got haressed and bullied a couple of times and now they have stopped but I can’t get over them and not having friends makes it even worse. Spending all day alone not having friends breaks me. My life is just so messed up. I’m so desperate just for a talk with anyone but seems like noone wants to even speak with me. Going to school not having any friends sitting alone desperate for a talk and returning home with tears is how I spent a day and I want it to be better but idk how even if someone scolds me a bit my eyes get full of tears I don’t want to cry in front of others but I do.
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You are too young to be feeling like this bro
Have u tried talking to some classmates or are u just waiting for them to approach you?
I can exactly understand where you are,like you I wanted to make friends and grow my circle but, it will create a tendency in you to say yes to everything and you might become people pleaser, so as someone who have been through that, I suggest you to keep yourself busy with the stuffs, learn things that can help you in things later, like basics typing, practice meditation, focus on studies.You don’t have to take my suggestions but,You do need friend but, don’t be so deep down on making friend , as I exactly did that in same class as you and,I regret it.When time comes, you will have good friend for sure.Take care, remember this shall too pass.
Start A Fucking Villain Arc.
but seriously it doesn’t matter you will find some real one as u play along for now drink water. be grateful and do workout
Try making Internet friends , add people in insta and reply to their story nd stuff and spark conversation. I hope it gets better for you. Try developing hobbies like football , basketball nd play with people at scl if that’s an option.
I think you’re too pessimistic. Do you even know what being or making friends is about? Do you think what do I do that pushes people away? Have you ever thought instead of trying to fit in with everyone you should just be yourself and no search for a friend desperately?
Listen kid!! I am gonna tell you something. I used to have similar situations during my school days.
I am 25 rn, non of that matters now. One thing i wish I would’ve known at that time would be that, life gets so much better.
Ofc life is ‘life’ its not always gonna be good tara similarly bad days pani afai fade hudai jancha.
People dont care about you? In return you too stop caring about them.
If you feel lonley, do something outside of school, maybe join a guitar class, art class , gym, anything.
One harsh reality is people do not care to be around someone who is sad depressed or desperate.
You start enjoying your own company and see how people’s energy change for you.
Bro ali optimistic hunu paryo kya
Yetro suggestion di rakheka xan. Timi chai anek bahana parera yo ni hudeina tyo ni hudeina vanxau.
Sochera matra hudeina kya. Kei kura haasil garna koshish garnuparxa.
Afu le afailai analyse garne ki kina koi ni ma sanga bolna cahadeina. Timi k garxau tesle garda aru timi bata tadha huna cahanxan. K timi dherai clingy ta xainau? Euta naya sathi banne bittikai sabei tira usko paxi ta lagdeinau? Afulai desperate tarikale present ta gari rakheko xainau?
Afaile le analyse gara ani bistarei improve harne koshish gara.
I dont wanna sound mean but reading the replies i can understand why no one wants to befriend you
You sound very pessimistic
DM me brother. Let’s have a talk.
And what school that is?
> no one wants to talk to me
Do you happen to have some idea or guesses about why that is? Be honest when answering this. If you don’t have any clue, take a wild guess.
> I also get humiliated by teachers in the class. I got haressed and bullied a couple of times
Humiliated how? What exactly do they say or do?
Best way to make friends is through sports, gali khane pani ho garne pani ho, that’s how i made friends , insults go along with each other
Had a lot of friends in school.
Had a lot of friends in high school.
Barely in contact with them atm.
You’ll find your friends.
leave these stupid thinking just be alone and happy
i am now fullfilled with so called friends but i think it is just nothing
i have been alone and happy so you also be happy to be alone because that is your nature
Get a Job lil N
I know its very hard right now tara strong raha. Keep working on yourself and when the right time comes, you will find the right people and the right people will find you. Also talk about this to your parents, don’t keep it bottled up inside.
You are never alone.
I would love to be in your shoes right now as of now I hate socialising it’s draining I wish I could go to those days when I didn’t have to talk with anyone. Now I need to socialize and it’s just draining.
I also didn’t have any friends from school. Don’t worry bro, you might get in +2 or bachelor.
But I didn’t have friends in +2 too but I got one true friend in bachelor who even help while I was in depression.
But as far as I know all relationship asks for time and some sacrifice even friendship. But it will be help if he is matured.
Tmro situation bata maile ni suffer garya ho….. Ahile lai tension liyera basnu pardaina bistarai try gariraheko chau tei gara aba pachi pani dherai new faces vetchau yeta uta bata sathi banauchau…. lonely chu vanera na socha ramro chaliraheko state pani bigrincha…testo force na gara afulai ani people pleaser na hunu sathi banna thaleypachi haiii…….dukha paincha(experience le boldai chu) ahile naramro lagcha afu ma nai khot dekhincha tara try gara yeso common topic haru ma sano sano convo badaune gara no worries ho…. hobbies haru explore gara tyo garda pani sathi haru banaune chance huncha….
Just be patient. And if you ever feel down Just go to a mirror Look at yourself and say, “I am enough alone. I don’t need anyone. I will just be patient.”
You have whole movie left to be seen of your life. If your classmate doesnt resonate you back then just dont give a fuck to them. You’ll surely build your confidence with these experience and you’re gonna attract alot of like minded people along your way. Forget about them and work upon yourself. Upscale your mind, play with innovative idea, play sports (easiest way to make friends), speak with your family, open up about your problems to them that will make you feel light for sure and will make you ready to absorb more difficult situations in coming days.
Start going to the gym and you can make gym buddies. If you don’t have school friends, hang out with your cousins, or neighboring kids your age. But I think going to the gym taking care of your health and body will make you feel better. Along with thst other people will notice the change and will want to be friends as well.
Usually you get friends who like to do the same activity as you. Just introduce yourself to a new group that has similar interests as you and you’ll be fine.
I feel sorry for you but I guess you should seek professional help because we reddtors might not have proper qualifications and skills to help you.
All I can suggest is activities like team sport, or even gym or some community clubs where you can meet new people who mignt not discriminate against you.
How about changing school, because its difficult to study in such a situation? Have you talked to your parents about it? If you haven’t please do it, and work together with them to find a solution.
Hey there fellow person(well for me you are still a kid). But let me just give you some advice, you don’t force yourself to make friends just be natural and you shall make one no worries. Also on the meantime start enjoying yourself, life is long, friends come and friends go too. You don’t need to put pressure on yourself. And btw crying doesn’t make you weak, I am a full grown ass adult and cry to bed a lot of times. Don’t worry you shall definitely have a hell lot of friends, if not now maybe in college or university. So just chill. Try to talk some of them and ask if they are interested or maybe ask if you could sit with someone on the same desk. Just enjoy yourself, study and work hard.
Hera ! Some people make great friends in colleges. You are young you have so much to look forward to. I understand that you seem very desperate to have someone. But desperation leads to toxic people. You want genuine people around you and for that you should let it flow and not force. In todays world there are so many things to do via internet that you could use your time to learn new skills. Meditate and workouts also has a great impact on mental health. Start with 10 min a day even if you have no interest. Force yourself for that 10 min in 24 hrs will do no harm eventually you will want to do it for longer and it might help you in being aware about yourself too.Having said that I am not a psychology professional but telling you these by experience. Every journey is different so you should really go to therapy! Therapy does wonders!
I might be wrong but you have more life ahead bro.
(i want to preface this by saying that I sympathize with your situation and I’ve been there. I was able to find myself a great group of friends that really helped me develop myself. i pray that you reach the same result. some of what i said might sound disrespectful but please know that I’m coming from a good place)
People tend to become friends with those who give off a good energy. a good vibe.
Friendly, kind, sense of humor, confident, etc.. People want to associate with those who know who they are (or atleast seem to) and what they want from life.
Develop hobbies, exercise, do what you think will bring you healthy doses of joy.
If you can do that then:
1) you’ll have stuff to talk about with more people than before because you have hobbies that might be similar to that of others. this can be a great way to meet people that you’ll axiomatically get along with.
2) you’ll become a more interesting person
3) you’ll have more material for conversations
4) you’ll be put through a lot of uncomfy situations at first. this is a great way to overcome social anxieties.
5) most importantly, you’ll be a healthier happier version of yourself
you’re wondering why people won’t come up to you and talk to you: you probably don’t seem like a very interesting person. no one wants to be friends with boring people.
you also probably have established a reputation of being a closed off person. that’s gonna be a tough barrier to break.
you want to blame the world for your suffering. but i’d argue that you were already suffering. from within.
focus your attention inwards. learn to adapt to the world. chase situations that enable you to better yourself. explore your world. chase situations (safe ones) that expose you to new and unknown experiences. enjoy all that life has to offer. and remember it’s about the type of friends you make, not how many.
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a simple positive change in thinking can set off a chain reaction of other changes.
good luck brother
Hi brother. I can understand you. I did go through the same thing you are going right now during class 8.
No friends, got bullied, same thing about the tears, teacher target.
Wanted to change section so bad but couldn’t. Complained to the principal so many times still no benefit.
Couldn’t share in my home thinking what will they think about me.
My advice is
Keep working on yourself, Don’t be mean to people.
Play sports
School bata aaune bittikai football wa testai kei khelna gaideu
Tya pani sathi nai chan vane kunai new thau ma gaidera ma ni khelchu ni vanda sab le khelauchan or start running tyo man parena vane.
Alik busy vayo vane yesto feeling le hit gardaina.
This may not be a good thing tara maile chai k garya the vanda I made friends with girls.
Holan girls pani mean pachadi bata but they give you good company.
This is temporary and you will overcome this.
Keep faith in yourself.