The other day I along with my friends went to a campaign related to mental health. We were asked to rate our mental health according to our present situation. Me and my one friend rated ourselves pretty decently but my another friend rated herself 4/10 . We both were surprised and asked her and she kept a low smile and said nothing. She belongs to a Muslim family and its more problematic than our family as she had talked about it a little to us pailai. Now I’m very much concerned and it’s bothering me . She is a very good friend and she also knows how much I like her. But knowing that she’s not feeling well it’s now making me emotional. I assume maybe it’s cause of her family ig. What should I do ? I Don’t want to ask her about it cause maybe she’s not comfortable talking about it that openly. I just want to make her feel better, safe and happy genuinely at least around us. I want to help her so please suggest me smtg that I can do to help her.
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Just be there for her. I can guess from this that you are a good friend to her. Just let her know that you can be her safehouse and she can trust you. Just letting her you know that you are there for her and care for her would mean the world to her. Hopefully she will see that and feel a bit better. And make her believe that you are here if she needs you. She will share her plights with you and ask you for help as and when she needs it.
Be a good friend to her. Safe feel garepaxi aafai vanxin paxi paxi
Make her feel comfortable. Do things she likes and soon they’ll open up little but yes they will .
This one method helps me most of the time in such scenarios: While talking to her, try to be a little vulnerable or express your own fears, insecurities, secrets or something like that, and then she will feel safe to express her vulnerabilities and issues to you.
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Out of the context, but even 4 sounds like a decent number, well at least to me… I would’ve rated myself 1 or 2