Hi guys. I’m still in shock and I shouldn’t really share this but I’m thinking about this from past 3 days and find this shi more complicated.
Basically, mero distant family ma ek jana aama hunuhunchha/hunuhunthyo. She had no son but she had 2 daughters ani aile tyo 2 daughters ko kids are also getting married. Yo aama chai she was around 75 yo. Waha le dherai dukha garera chhori haru hurkaunu vako. Padhe lekheko ni haina tyo aama. Her husband was epileptic ani died early. Teti belako society ma her dewar n his family made her life hell. Yet, she did everything she could for those 2 daughters, sent them to school, managed everything she had to and got them married. Yo aama 66, 67 yo huda ekdam birami huna thalnu vayo. Her daughters used to take care of her. Chhori haru kai ghar ma basna thalnu vayo. Kaile kanchhi kaile jethi garera. Society ma “___ and ___ le herata aama lai kasto garera rakheko chhan, chhori k kam” vanna thaliyo. I grew up thinking ill be like those 2 sisters. Fate had good plans for them as they’re FUCKING WEALTHY. They got married to businessmen ani their business took off and made like crores of money.
Perfect examples to young girls like us, right? Independent earning women also got married to rich husbands taking care of their unwell mom. Society ma ijjat testai, now here’s the thing 75 yo ko umer ma that aama committed suicide chhori ko ghar pachhadi ko khola ma hamfalera. Sab le tyo aama lai tetro chhori haru le garera rakhda ni mari budi kasto buddhi vako vanchha. I’m thinking haatti ko dekhaune daat ra khane daat chhuttai. Koi manchhe 75 yo ko age ma chhori ko ghar pachhadi ko khola ma haamfalera marchha kei torture navai? Ani kaile kai ta thala nai parnu hunthyo re tyo aama like washroom jana nasakne, couldn’t clean herself up etc so her daughter and son in law used to do all that pani re. Aama yesto birami huda arko chhori went to Australia ghumna and the whole society is shocked. Bejjat hunchha vanera bihana 4 baje khola ma nahuna janu vako thyo ani dubera marnu vayo vanne narrative chhori haru are pushing society ma chai. Hami close family lai chai 3,4 choti samma khola ma jana khojda hamile dekhera farkayera lerautheu vannu hunchha tyo didi. 2,3 choti khola tira jada nai hospital lagnu pardaina when they knew their mom was suicidal asf. Ani testo suicidal aama chhodera one daughter goes to Australia and another daughter leaves her suicidal mother ground floor ma alone to sleep w no one to look after her and she sleeps upper floor ma. Suicidal manchhe lai that too your fkn mom lai yesari chhodinchha ra?
The woman who did everything for her daughters said society ko euta aunty lai malai chhori ko ghar ma marna mann chhaina, ma sanga mero kriya garne paisa chha kasaile dina pardaina. Mero marne bela vayera ma thala paresi hajur sab jana vetna aaunu tha vai halchha malai merai ghar lagera sutaidinus ma kasailai dukha dinna na ta yaha chori ko ma marchhu. How can a loving mother kill herself at that old age, when all she dreamt about was staying w her daughters and she was doing exactly that?
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Please do not feel bad. She must have been a really strong person to raise two good daughters despite being a widow! She must be proud of herself and must be dying inside when she cannot take care of herself! When she realized that she was loosing her dignity, she must have thought suicidal! I am not trying to glorify it, but ask any able bodied person what would their future wishes be? All of them will say they would rather die than be a drag to people they love if they can not take care of themselves!
Old age ma suicidal hunu isn’t normal yet so common in nepali society. We had a budo uncle ximeki with his eldest son’s family. They had no fights(tasiyeko ghar xa, ani we aren’t that busy ki ximek ma kurai tha nahune) he tied a rope through shutter(pasal haru ma hunxa ni), committed suicide on board daylight.
Another ximeki boju, 5 daughters and all married.lived with her husband(ex army) pension authio.so friendly, batoma sablai bolaune. Morning tira suicide by hanging.
Another ximeki aunty, 2daughter, 2 sons married. Husband and Duita xora sangai basne. 2am tira(tei time ma uthnu huntio re) Dhoka ma dori ko paso layera jhundinu vayexa. 4am tira halla vayo.
My grandfather, khaat bata afai uthna ba sakne vaye vane vaat ma biis halera dini malai vannuhu thio. He died natural death.
So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace. And speaking of her daughters, they got overly blinded by loads of money. Karma will take care of them..
This kind of stories makes me sad 😢
This is disturbing really. I refuse to believe that the daughters did not have anything to do with it. A woman who did not break when life was that tough can’t just commit suicide if the pain was not unbearable.
Life sucks!
i think it’s a story you get to see from outside, but sometime people don’t know what’s happening in the inside. my grandmother was very old she was here in Kathmandu with her younger son but after some time she insisted on going to our village to die on our own soil. my father took her there. my thulo baba was there near my grandmother house even though she insisted on staying at her house and die there. villagers said “hera ta aama lai eklai rakhera kathmandu gayo arko le feri khana ni didaina re”. as you see my grandmother was old, we have to look after her diet not that she was not given food we just controlled what she eats for her sake. then she got sick my father went there to visit her in her death bed. when she died people said she died starving, she was 92 years old. i think my grandmother died peacefully with her sons in her death bed but people at village say all sort of things. sometimes you don’t know what’s actually happening don’t just assume everything. people talking all sort of things could have ruined her mentality that she felt guilty and worse burden. people should mind their business in a right place and speak carefully.
Damn, even a small sickness like a fever makes a person feel absolutely shit. Now, an old woman with health problems and basically noone to take care of her, that’s fucked. At least on a more positive side, children learn from their parents so high likelihood that the daughters will experience smth like that. At the end of the day, no amount of money’s gonna help u if ur sick. You may hire a personal helper, but they are only doing it for money. They won’t have the same level of interest for ur wellbeing than ur own family. You may be admitted into hospice but the loneliness will eat you up.
When a person becomes wealthy they forget their base.
Yeha chori haru abusive chan bhanne conclusion ma sabai jana kasari pugyew?
Ama 75 barsa hunu bhayo re, ani morne bela 85 hola. 18(67-85) barsa samma ghumnai na jane katai? Arko didi ho ki baina baki nai cha ta herna lai ghumna gainjel. Wealthy ho bhane ta take care garne manche pani rakheko thiyo hola ki?
75 year old sickly people are fucked-up haywire with their emotions, depression ko knowledge na hunu ra abusive hunu same category kasari bhayo? Khola jadai ma haam falna atyo bhanera choriharule kina sochnu, buda budi ta hallidai kata pugchan pugchan.
Depression in older people is taken as buda bhayesi manche barbarauna thalchan, halka psycho huna thalchan dherai chinta garera, depression-induced psychosis haru bhako hamile notice garira hundainam, it’s harder to diagnose it, even doctors agree upon that.
She felt like a burden, her daughters may have been exhausted after 8 years of taking care of her, she would notice that as well, Why are people calling the daughters abusive, Maybe I’m missing something? Can you give more details?
It might be controversial but want say something she”aama” was 75 right i have both my grandfather and mother from both side i.e mom and dad (i consider myself lucky) they all are around 80 years and live by themself we(not far fathers side 60kms and mother side 45kms) so we vist them and they vist us frequently. The thing is they are not morden as us or our parents they are from the time when discrimination was on its peak male dominated society was there so that aama not wanting to die in her daughters house led her to overthinking and at that old age she dont have anyone to share really what is going in her head she might got depressed and saw only one solution that was killing herself. I am not defending daughters here they are also at wrong for not taking good care at last point. But old people are like child and they want what they want.
:’) I feel really sad for this aama. One day those daughters gonna realize when they also come across the same age. Mark my words! RIP grand ma, you are at peace now. :’)
Oho can’t even imagine something like this happening to a closed one.Aba waha le suicide garya ho ki haina ta we are no one to judge..maybe she felt like a burden but aba chora chori caring ho bhane ta testo feel nahuna parne ki ta homicide ho , wouldn’t be surprised tbh aile ta Kaliyuga ho bhanya ho nai recha, I’ll never get people who end up abandoning their parents who have done everything in there power to give their children the life they’re living
Sad to hear this , may she her soul rest in peace . She was indeed a loving mother . Those daughters were never aware of her love , but i believe karma will her them one day . Once again Rest in peace . 🕊️
Some Children don’t deserve their parents
Paisa vayexi bau aama le gareko maya vulera hepne manxe haru ko bachha le ni tiniharu lai budo vayexi testai garos. Jindagi ma sab ko palo aauxa, paxi thapauxan tiniharu le.
Manxe haru aahile paisa lai k saro superior thaaneko ho ki aafnai aama laii testo garne. Kasto cruelty tira jadai xa samaj yesto ni manxe haru huda raixaa
Paxii tyo xori harule thahapaauxa kasto hunxa vanera
Aakha bata asu ayo yar yo sunera….
Just thinking about how much she struggled through for her daughters only to be done like this is really heart breaking. And please do not say its a suicide, its manslaughter. Her daughter pushed her to suicide.
Remember people, never put a single tear on your mom’s eye.
Women are very Narcissist these days. Be aware who you marry with. A good one makes your life heaven and easy and the crazy one will make your life hell with all the manipulation game. Many come with self-centeredness and cluster B personality disorder, empathy wala women are very hard to find who keep family intact. Sorry for the Ama.
Nice story, chatGPT?
May her soul rest in peace.
And don’t overthink on yourself.
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Sorry to hear about it. What a sad story and sad ending. Yastai ho.. maybe she had had enough of struggles and she killed heeself thinking she fulfilled all her responsibilities? Maybe the daughters were not taking good care of aama.
J pani huncha when people get mentally ill.. yo age maa soch change garauna ni gaaro huncha ekdam.. tehi level ko counseling sayad garna sakne manche kamai hola…. Most likely all her past trauma hit her up now and that triggered her issues as such… RIP such strong aama..
Maybe she felt like she was burden to her daughters
If all the details given by you is true then this case needs to be investigated. This could be an act of being purposefully negligent.
I love your article or post a lot. Please post more such kind of issues.
I saw few comments in here that old age mah suicidal hunu is not normal but actually, old age mah depression and anxiety is very common. Nepal mah thaa navaera ho. Anyway, she might have been depressed for a long time, physical wellbeing tw sabaile heryo what about mental wellbeing.
Physically unwell huda hami doctor ko mah gaehalxam, but mentally unwell huda kina kasailai navani basxam?
And this starts from your own house. I’ve finally drilled the concept of mental health to my family and close relatives. When will everyone of us start?
How were her son in laws , maybe because of them , there is no way daughters could do anything bad , or maybe others in family !!
I think the reason they gave her ground floor is her being old and not able to use stairs, at least thats why my awjaa lives on ground floor. And I also think burden hunuhunthyo ra naramro chahanthyo vani farkayera lyauthenan. we’ll never know the truth but I feel like all their fault is not taking her to hospital for her being suicidal, but Nepali haru le mental health lai priority didainan. They think khana basna paxa vani it should be enough.
May her soul rest in peace and goes to heaven where she eternally belongs.