Do you ever feel alone irl because you cant talk about the stuff you enjoy with anyone? In Nepal average IQ level is legit bordering on retardation. Any serious subject is viewed as pretentiousness, and often they are indeed mentioned with pretense in mind, which creates a culture.
For example I like reading and when I try to have a serious book talk it’s often mocked as uptight and arrogant and at the same time the book is considered a fetish object to signify wisdom, but to the point that the population reads so little that any book whatsoever, even the stupidest self help slop, grants someone the image of intellectual for the majority of people around them, and people mistake fancy words for deep thought. Its frustrating.Thats a bit of my experience, I want to know yours
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You aren’t alone suffering. I find people boring because they don’t have anything talk about deeply either it is philosophy, books, cinema, art, music or politics. and if you started talking about any matter deeply, it sounds like you are being egoistic about your knowledge as another party have no idea about it and leads to unintresting conversation. So my advice is to talk about currently hot trending top topic whether it is shitty reality show, meme trend or fake propaganda.
Me too bro, me too :/ The whole personality of an average Nepali person is close-mindedness.
Loneliness and reddit best combo.
The only rule while having a conversation is to understand how you make them feel. If there is someone out there who likes you talking about these things, then they surely are going to connect with you. However, in the context of Nepal, it often seems that most individuals seek companionship primarily for lightheartedness and shared laughter. There is no choice but to go along with it and tbh, it grows on you after a while.
Consider your passion as something deeply intimate, much like the way you have sex with your partner. It’s a personal connection that you wouldn’t necessarily feel the need to openly discuss with others, would you?
I get you. Tbh you just pretend to be as retarded as them, stay neutral and do your own thing
That’s when you join a subreddit of your interest and find your people 🙂
मेलै मेरो म लाई अचेतबाट सचेत प्रष्ट्याउन पढ्ने गरेको छु । बकम्फुसे बातमा साथ नदिने होडमा संज्ञाहीन प्राणीको अमुर्ततामा मुर्तता थप्न पढ्ने गरेको छु । अस्वीकार्य-स्वीकार्यको रिक्तताको क्षणिकता भुलाउन पढ्ने गरेको छु ।
>when I try to have a serious book talk it’s often mocked as uptight and arrogant
Then you’re talking to wrong type of people. Know your audience. I mean you wouldn’t talk about cars to someone who has no interest in cars.
Yeah and you slowly starting losing interest in people and everything becomes dull😭
I would suggest that you endeavor to focus on your own internal world. You do not require the validation of others to pursue your interests or to acquire knowledge. Simply pursuing the subjects that you are passionate about can bring you joy and fulfillment.
Of course, it is still important to connect with other people. However, if you are unable to find people in your immediate circle who share your interests, do not hesitate to seek them out online or in other communities. My friends hop in r/NepaliBibliophiles for wisdom, not to mention I’m the mod there. There are many people out there who are just as passionate about reading and other intellectual pursuits as you are.
r/iamverysmart lol
I think sometimes loneliness is a gift, I can think about so many things, go into rabbit hole of some philosophy, get lost in thoughts. But other times, it’s sad.
Listen to understand and speak to be understood bhanney suneko chaina Ra? Why try to talk about deep kura. Just talk.
I have no idea why people are so obsessed with IQ like its some heavenly gift. We all know, IQ doesn’t predict anything when comes to living a happy and fulfilled life full of wisdom to share. Having high IQ doesn’t make one Lord Buddha, all right. That person may be intellectually sharp, but not necessarily wise.
A 14 year old village kid who has to walk half an hour to go to a publicly/communally funded school with no resources, little to no skilled/trained teacher, try compare him with a 14 year old city kid who has all the resources and guided and trained by professionals, chances are the city kid will score significantly more than an average village kid. What does that tell ? The city kid was exposed to the training (not education, training) with adequate resources. That’s it. What do they predict about the future ? That the kid with high IQ might get hired by a good corporation to work for somebody else 8-10 hrs a day, 6 days a week.
IQ of Albert Einstein is estimated to be around 160, everybody reading this knows Albert Einstein. There are a lot of other people on this earth who have/had IQ of more than 160, take Terence Tao, his IQ is above 200. Most of the people don’t even know who he is. So, what does it say ? IQ is, just like any other test, a result of how well you perform in IQ tests. IQ test doesn’t show how well you perform in life. You can always be trained to perform better.
About reading books, we do read very little. But being wise is about learning and reading is just one way. Me personally, I don’t see any essence of romance focused novels like Subin Bhattarai’s Summer Love and Saaya. Self help books with no philosophical reasoning behind them, I don’t find myself looking and reading them either. Reviews and summary are very important to read before beginning to reading a book.