Hello everyone. So I’ll come to the point and don’t mind me if this becomes long. So I got into a college ani like mero course ma chai there are prolly 13,14 people only in my sem. My degree is kinda unheard type ko ani rarely people get into it. So I joined college 1 month late pani so I didn’t know whom to talk to or which group to get into. Mero life ma kaile yesto without friends wala scenario nai aako thena aile samma. But, college ma I got into a group ani tyo group ma 4 people had already bonded with each other later I got in ani so obviously I was the odd one out. 2 jana besties ani arko 2 jana besties since +2 ani 4 of them getting along well. I felt really weird and I rarely go to college. I get my materials ani notes ani study at home. Those kids that went to college everyday had got like 4 backs ani I was able to do well going to college 2,3 days a week and studying at home. First sem ma I went to college nearly everyday but since I had absolutely 0 friends and this was my first time literally having 0 fuckin friends I just didn’t know how to cope and stopped going to college. Yk looking at the window or looking at your phone all the time, sitting in a corner and not knowing what to do. No one talks to me and I do approach people, last time I approached someone heck that girl said it straight to me, “timi sanga boleko haina kina reply gareko, timi chup basa aau *a girls name* jaam”. I literally have no one to talk to ani I get anxious. Imagine talking to “a” person? Literally not me cuz lmao no one talks to me. So I pulled out tyo celebrity in the class/quiet kid that rarely comes to college wala persona xD.
This is kasto draining ani I’m taking a break from everything now. Literally no social medias at all. I just downloaded reddit to rant. I’m not talking to anyone I knew before entering this college too. I’m just not talking and avoiding everything. My mental health has been terrible ani my battle with depression is not sth new. With all this idk what to do. I feel exhausted and skipping college all the time isn’t great for me either. How do I survive these 4 years? 🙂
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” timi sanga boleko haina kina reply gareko, timi chup basa aau *a girls name* jaam ”
damn what a rude girl, i can feel your embarrasement there
kasto anime wala vibe ayo yo padda malai ta
aba remaining time ma maybe try to learn some new skill, do something that brings a smile on your face, maybe try to land some internship…..
exam dina matra gaye hunxa clz nagaye pani, ma ta tei garxu….just updated huna paryo clz ko notice haru herdai
i don’t know about other people but clz ,school haru ko sathi clz,school nasake samma matra hunxa jasto xa …tyo paxi sab afno duniya ma
try not to feel bad , hami eklai janmeko ho, eklai nai marnu parxa ekdin so
I get that sometimes, being around people is draining. But we’re all living a life where we have to be social. It’s just the way it is. I advise you to realize that things will be like this all the time. Now, you can do whatever you want about it, you know. You can continue whatever you’re doing now and get by 4 years while being miserable. Or you can suck it up, understand that things will be different and you need to adapt.
Paila friends hunthyo, ailay chaina bhanera whatever you’re doing right now is only creating a negative aura around you and will probably repel people more. For the time being, go to college everyday, be nonchalant of people who seem to bite on you or rude towards you. I know it’s hard but what else can you do about. Eventually you’ll find friends. Feel free to DM or give updates in future or just rant.
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Also, do not ever be the first one to talk with those rude ass girl/s.
I do get that. I also got into my campus 3 months after classes started, 2 months before semester exams were to happen. The beginning days were tough, i didn’t know a thing, didn’t know anyone, no one really talked to be, left out of class activities, group discussion felt me being invisible and on top of that academic pressure, the course was 60% finished and i literally just got admitted, no notes, exams coming and shits were happening. But i thought fuck it, why waste time on whining, just do what you do. With good initiative and planning, i did become good in academics as well as i started getting my name around and winning people.
If you start worrying about what people will think and how they’ll judge you, then it’s game over. You just gotta do things, man. Talk to a person, just do it, don’t think too much. Find common things in between and just approach people. Being energetic and commanding will help you win people.
When I joined bachelors ( I left already), I used to sit alone when another student came and sat beside me because there were no other seats where there was only one person, and the first time I said some words to my benchmate was after 3 weeks. Talking to people mentally drains me, I’m dealing with loneliness since years and sometimes when it reaches the absolute top, I kind of wish that someone would talk to me but then again after a moment I’m like nah. Depression got Me, I also tried to hang but at the end moment I thought about my family, they’ve never forced me anything, always did everything they could for me and if I throw my life away like that, they’ll think they failed as parents and I can’t stoop that low. That’s what makes me stop committing, but i wouldn’t mind if some accident takes me away.
Mero pani story similar nai chha
+2 pachi I took some years off ani joined bachelor. 1st semester went thikai nai tara I had a few friends who were my bench partners 2 and 3rd sem was covid so sabai online nai hunthyo college classes haru teto bela samma pani I used to be in contact with 3-4 friends. But 4th dekhi physical classes bhako thiyo ani really couldn’t get along with people, tried a lot nai ghulmil huna tara euta ta whole class nai 2ota row ko friends circle ma divided thiyo tesko mathi everyone had their own friends circle. Tesko mathi maile jaslai aafno close friends manthye sabai le euta na euta tarika le dhoka diye ya ta selfish hunthye ki ta siddai ditch nai handiye. Class ma afu pani purai loner bhanera basinthyo huda huda 1-2 jana sanga bahek bolna pani chode. Ek jana sathi che jasle chahi malai jahile support garyo maile katti disappoint gare pani jahile mero lagi help garthiyi ani ekdamai grateful chhu. Hope kunai din Reddit account kholyou bhane yo dekchau 😅. Copacetic 😂😂
Ahile final year ma chhu 4 semester jati ta almost eklai nai bitaye, kahile yo torture sakiyela jasto hunthyo tara aba 6 mahina jati matrai baki chha sakincha bhanera afulai chitta bhujaudai chhu
So tmi pani euta sathi matra bhayeni banauna khoja dherai pani chahidaina. Euta sathi dependable bhayo bhane pugcha
Real life ma ni yesto huncha?? 😭😭 this is honestly so sad
As an introvert (ambivert to be precise), when I joined high school, I never approached anyone at first for a talk throughout the whole 2 years. And many friends used to say “kina na boleko sathi”. It really didn’t affect my mental health because I donot like being socialized.
>My degree is kinda unheard type ko
Bachelor of Mass Communication ta haina ni?
ill be your friend lol
If you’re studying jn KU then DM me. I’ll try to help you
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i’ve always felt alonne too.. cause felt that talking about random things like sports and such was useless for my future and personal development.. as my friends were interested in those.. if i can call hanging out with some people makes them friends.. saathy haru wari pari vae ni eklo hune cause they didnt talk with me that much.. anyway if u want someone to talk about i’m open to these things as i have helped people in later stages dealing with problems and such…
I feel you yr. I have always been an introvert plus a socially awkward gut, so I was never really good at interactions. I also used to go college but I never felt good there because I was always alone. Sitting alone, eating alone, walking alone while watching others enjoy and gossip behind your back, etc. So here is one thing I can suggest to you which I am currently doing: work on yourself and just hope for the best. I know it hurts but as you can see, there are similar people like us who can understand each other. So let’s hope that we will eventually meet such right people in the future. Till then, improve as much as you can.
I’m also kinda on the same page as you buddy. Lately, I’ve feeling lonely a bit too much. I do like to talk to people but too much of the same drains me especially if it’s with someone I really don’t vibe with. I’ve always been an introverted, quite guy, I make friends but cannot really connect with everyone. I had one friend with whom I was most close, we met in school, started talking and soon became best buddies. He was the one I always turned to, happy, sad every moments. After +2 we got in same college, same course, our plans were also same, what we’d do after clg etc. But everything came crushing last December when I lost him in an unfortunate accident. We were about to entry our last sem and were really looking forward to finishing our degree but life had a different plan. I legit cried on the last day of college while returning home, it struck me at tht time that we entered this college together for the first time, but I had walk out without him, alone.
Since he left I realised that I have no real friends except him. There are other friends but not close enough and they are busy with their life.
Now, I have enrolled myself for masters program and boy I do not know even a single soul in our department. Classes are scheduled to start from next week and i don’t know how will I survive there.
I feel you bro, I just went to a social gathering program and felt like I wasn’t accepted by anyone. Only few people, one person from reddit, one person from India, one person from Bangladesh and a brother chatted with me for a little moment.
I went there to beat my introverted nature, but sadly it beat me.
This is exactly how I’m feeling after getting into college . I’m in a group of 3 friends and you know trio never works 2 of them are like besties and i really feel left out . They always talk about their own thing and pretend like im not there .. one day when we were in class and 3 of us were sitting together they were both chatting w each other just like everyday but I think I reached to a limit and had a mental break down .. only then they paid attention to me asking me what happened bla bla can’t they see how they treat me I’m just their name ko matra sathi .. just like you I wish I could stay home and study my parents will scold me if I don’t go to college otherwise I feel better at home you know that quotes it’s better to be alone then be with some people that make you feel like lonely I have 2 years left .. can’t wait for this hell to end
join club and groups around home , make friend and know that not everyone is your friend and its great , the best way to be not anxious is just confront what you are anxious about even when you fear the worse,
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4 years go easy and not everyone think of you too much like you yourself do
specially this generation forgets fast so . just move on, slowly you will forget as well
Post kholna saath ko kosle omg bhaniyo🖐️
kun degree ho sis?
It’s only 4 years. If the course is something you really want to do then give it your best. People come and go from your life. Some you will like. Some you will hate. Some you will hate at first but like later and vice versa. But at the end you are doing this for you and your future -if it’s important then you will tough it out.
There were 13 students. 4 of them were rude to you. What about others? Didn’t you approach other classmates or did everybody ignore you?