So today morning my dad and my mom were fighting with eachother about a very tiny minimal matter and making it big and were throwing apples to the ground as a damage with their angerness. I don’t know how to stop the violence or simply stop all of it happening beacuse i cannot side my opinion on whos answer is more valid. As far as i have known and acknowledged them, my mom does verbal abuse to almost everyone in my family, she thinks shes always right and scolds everyone with her harsh words 20% of the time she’s right but she always brings unnecessary things. for you to know let me tell you a example, suppose i did smthg bad, and what she will do is damage me emotionally into thinking im worth nothing so i reply back be i know i dont deserve those verbal shits then she will go away starts crying and exposing her old shits what happened in her life and makes me feel bad or if that doesn’t happen someday then she will mistreat me for weeks and give silent treatment. She does same with my dad, if he gets one thing wrong or not on favor of her she will mistreat him with silent treatment scold him indirectly with shattering language and obvs hurtful words and she always brings past from 16years ago (the time we were born) and starts scolding him abt what he did at that time. IS IT NORMAL DOES EVERYONES PARENTS DO THIS I DONT KNOW AND PLEASE SOME HELP I WANT TO KNOW IF IT NORMAL OR NOT. SO NOW MY DADS PART, he’s not any god too, in my view he is almost 50% of the time with his valid opinions and stuffs but he uses hurtful words to my mom when she gets anger like he wishes on her downfall (i again tell you not everyday just when he’s getting silent treatment from mom and when she scolds him) i mean thats valid kinda idk, my mom beusing hurtful words too. So idk whom to support exactly and not let these and not let these abuse stop affecting me. € so a thing is if i support dad and my mom is angry with my dad she will start misbehaving me too and will give me again words that will hurt me and will go on and say go stick with your dad since you support him sm and stuffs like these I KNOW PEOPLE EXPERIENCE MORE THAN THIS BUT THESE SHIT ALWAYS AFFECT ME SM AND I HATE LIVING HERE
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I dont know whether it is normal or not but it does happen in some degree in my life too
that’s when I remember jay shettys quote and quote ”people who need the most love ask for it in the most unloving way” this was the video I was talking about
[https://youtube.com/shorts/RK5syIeG6e0?feature=shared](https://youtube.com/shorts/RK5syIeG6e0?feature=shared) I hope it does makes some sense to you like it did when I was in that phase.
what I mean is, that maybe your parents needs a lil bit of love and appreciation on their way. it can be small but convincing something that you really mean.
Definitely not good. She could use an THC edible or something for introspection.