I would like to share my experience with a girl.

I would like to share my experience with a girl.

We were In same college during +2 . We fell in love. Usko ghar ma pani Tha payo. Bhie ko kura Chaldai thiyo. We decided not do marry since we were just 18-19. She was beautiful. Dherai kta haru le uslia propose garthiyo. She used to flirt back maile fb messager check garda. Ani I asked her pw ani I used to block those who would flirt with her. I used to say “Hamro ghar ma kura vaisakyo” kina Yesto garaeko? Later I found that she has another fb id and another SIM card hidden in phone case. I asked myself “ is it because I am ugly? Something wrong with me? I begged her not to do these things. She used to cry and asked for forgiveness when I told her we should break up. I believed her and forgive her 4-5 times . I caught her cheating. I realized ki kt haru on the fly runa sakchan.how can girls be such heartless Sochi. I just couldn’t let her go. How pathetic was I? How dumb I was to figure out she is not going to change. One day I found sexual pics in her phone. Maile Kati fight gare Aru kta haru sanga but I didn’t realized that it was her fault.merai gf ko fault thiyo. Hamro proper break up pani vayena. She just gaslighted me telling my and her family side that I was using drugs that why she left me. I was in my lowest. 7 years has passed and still I am sad . I have moved on but it still hurts when I go to places we used to go. May be I am lato , pathetic person who just couldn’t let her go.


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37 thoughts on “I would like to share my experience with a girl.

  1. 1. Bro, you should have moved way ahead. She needed dick and you gave her heart.
    2. You cant generalize all girls are like that, it was her and you took it too long to realize it
    3. Thank god, if you had married her, the embarrassment you would have brought to you and your family, divorces and property gone and so much of depression not just to you but to your family has been stopped
    4. Take this as a phase, where god has taught you: to say “No”, not take anyone as permanent in life
    5. You must win these fearful feelings, find a new one with whom you can rewrite story and remember this time she doesn’t have to be beautiful, she doesn’t have to be virgin or your first love, she just has to love you and only you. Coz remember beauty attracts only at first, but once you have seen the same person for years, you stop seeing their beauty, but you become adjusted and attached to their behaviour and character and the atmosphere they develop around you.
    6. I can sense you’re sidha sojo like me, and we get cheated, hurted and feel betrayed like why tf did this happen to me while I’m so good and careful towards others(nothing to do with gender)? The problem brother is there is thin line between become sidha sojo and being murkha. We became murkha, now we mustnt be murkha but sachat while still not losing our sidha sojo. Our sidha sojo is our jewel, your partner later would love you for your posessiveness, our simplicity and your love and care and the time you spent pondering about her and your future together(also remember diff between being healthy-possessive and toxic)
    7. Find a girl, and re-write your story, you arent born to be depressed, this is a misuse of this life.

    Good luck.

  2. Golden rule – Never fight with another man for a girl. No girl is worthy that creates such a situation. Invest your time to build a better self and move on faster.

  3. Kinda similar story of mine. She basically cheated on me with her bestfriend’s boyfriend who was a good friend of mine as well. And later she broke up with me and told everyone of my friends that I cheated on her. A lot of our common friends truly hate me even now after almost 5 years. I never told my side of story. Only few of my close ones know the story.

  4. You are just a weak man, that’s all
    Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t said above thing on a whimp
    But
    That phase of your life should’ve been dedicated to building yourself
    When, a girl turn 18, 19 she becomes like that one beautiful flower in the garden
    But
    As a man, for you to become worthy of such flower it takes a lot more, a good study, a good career path, good earning chances, good communicating skills and so on

    Also,
    that phase of life was biggest test for her
    And
    What did she choose to do?
    Flirt with a bunch of guys where nothing is happening OTHER THAN FUELING EACH OTHERS LUST

    hence, just forget everything
    Laugh at your past weak self
    Take a big leap
    And, move forward
    Build yourself and a real goddess might be waiting for you
    In Nepal, there are still a lot of girls who are more traditional, beautiful yet strong and mentally tough, more faminine, caring, smooth handling of situations and so on

    So, find something like that for yourself, rather than thinking about that previous girl who has no value of her own dignity

  5. First time might be a mistake or maybe not her “fault”. If the same thing happens second time then you should move on. Forgiving 4-5 times is crazy to me, that’s just being a floor mat.
    Now it’s been 7 years, I don’t see any point on clinging of those horrible memories.
    Past is gone. What had to happen has already happened, so it’s time for you to learn and move on. Clinging on past just drags your soul to those horrible moments.

  6. It has already been 7 years, chill bro, drink some ice water

    jindagi ma moj gar, move on my guy

    btw, your cool and a damn nice gentleman, you just got into a wrong relaitonship

  7. Use the 5 by 5 rule.
    If it’s not gonna matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes thinking about it.

    Let it go bro.
    Sometime the worst place you can be is in your mind.

  8. Thanks for sharing your story. Reading your post helped me deal with my emotional baggage. I never had a girlfriend (but have been in beneficial relationship). Now, I am glad that I don’t have to go through what you did but definitely didn’t deserve any of it.

    Never forget that there are plenty of girls out there, some good some bad. Never let their actions undermine yourself. All the best.

  9. Cheer up OP, You got a chance to recognize a wolf in sheep clothing. The best thing is “You completely dodged a bullet” What would happen if you had married some-like her. Damn.

    Now saying that I am a believer of “Life has it’s Purpose”. And upon reading your post, for sometime I was like Damn and felt bad for you and even started to compare to my past… But then I realized, You are not Lato, pathetic person. __You are a normal person, just like everyone of us__ and some point in our lives __We all have been there,__ Some choose to share like you and some other chose to hide it. what happened to you it’s worth something. All those pain you went through. All those lessons you learnt. Its worth it.

    ## She was sent for you to teach you a lesson, and Congratulation you did. I am quite sure, next time you fall for someone again and trust me, You will. You won’t be repeating same mistakes again. Which will mold you into something wonderful like @Junior-Army-4047 said.

    Times are hard, economically – mentally – emotionally for everyone of us. Learn to stay strong and __love your self too__.

  10. You’ve been kind pal and they took advantage of you. It doesn’t mean you should be resenting the past mistakes, instead you should be glad that you’ve never failed yourself to be a good human being. All the suffering goes to them and not you, they will remember you and reflect their terrible mistakes for sure. Even the hell is not enough to justify their crime. Just heal yourself and see your self worth.

  11. Yeah, man, many girls in this generation seem quite heartless. I also had a girl, not a college student like yours, but someone I met randomly on Snapchat. We had a good chat, and our relationship lasted about a year. After that, I don’t know what happened, but she suddenly went back to her ex without even caring about me. I felt devastated; it was like my whole emotional world collapsed. It’s been around 3-5 months since she left me, and she not only went back to her ex but also blocked me. I want to emphasize that whatever misunderstanding led her to leave me wasn’t something we couldn’t have discussed. If she truly wanted me to leave, she could have communicated that. Instead, she left me feeling like I’m some sort of abandoned street dog. moved on yes sometimes i wonder bout her though

  12. Estai ho bro. Went through the same recently. Had everything of hers I didnt used to check it frequently but I had fb ko insta ko password. Cheat garne le jasari ni gardo raicha. Malai ta bihe garam bhnera afai cheat gardai thyo that is how worst a girl can be.

  13. TLDR: I am still holding onto the memories of this bitch cause I really wanted her fr fr. I am such a bigger bitch than her that even when I found red flags I looked over it cause in my head she was a fantasy beast. I got more Delulu over time but failed to notice I was just an option to her and everything that happened only cause I initiated. I will defend her in this chat

    TLDR: Is there an emotional bitch here I can bang for consolation? Sob sob 😭

  14. damn i know its hard for u to move on but i think u should start hanging out with other people (if u dont), talk to ur family and friends abt it, and do meditation or simply give time to yourself i swear these will help 🙂

  15. grief is difficult to get through and get over. have you tried therapy? unless you’ve healed or at least on the path to healing it would not be a good idea to commit to another person. it’d be unfair to them as well.

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