Me and my younger sister, are only few years apart and she is beautiful like explained in songs doe eyes, fair skin and extrovert, clever whereas I am brown skinned, small double lid eyes (tei vanxan ig), introvert and dumb ig. So sanai dekhi i have been compared to my sister hai like how beautiful she is, how charming she is and all my flaws were shown by my relatives. So sanai dekhi i have been insecure about my body. Tesai mathi being introvert and sensitive kid 😅😅
Six years ago, i was late teenager then I began to get close to my now bf. His sister is beautiful and has good make up skill ( mero family ma chahi pahila make up garne kt bigreko haru hun vanne kura hunthyo so i never learnt it) ani ma xu who like only uses sunscreen (though its too late now and i am all sun burnt lol). He would make comments unknowingly ki I can’t compare to his sister on look wise which hurt my self esteem more. I know ki I don’t look pretty but to throw it in my face is hurtful 😅 Though he says I am what he had always wanted brown colored, lil chubby but i am pretty sure he only fell for me cause of our conversation that we had. He says i am mature for my age and I understood him.
The point is now I as an adult, am really insecure about myself, my look mostly as my face and arms are sunburnt and i also have genetic wala skin disease from mom side which is not healing with any treatment . I did started gym to be fit but i am really insecure with my own skin ki photo khichna upload garna ni sakdina. I wear jackets even in this summer season cause i am scared to show my skin. I feel everyone is judging me when i meet people so I rarely meet people outside of my close circle and my confidence is really low at this point.
I was at your position once, just barely finished with my teen years and the most important thing I’ll suggest is find your comfort zone whether that be a hobby or a group of friends. Im too am an introvert like you said you were and one thing I noticed that made me uncomfortable were the people I surrounded myself with. It’s not like you have to hold on to any relation, especially if its toxic and bad to your mental health. Lots of broken friendships and i have finally found my comfort circle.
Being in that comfort zone definitely helped with my insecurities and one thing to note is being an introvert isn’t necessarily bad. And the thing about your looks, once you’re in your comfort zone, you’ll stop worrying about it. At least that happened to me. The thing i noticed is the insecure feeling came along cuz i felt like i had to make an impression everytime to the people around me before, which i dont feel anymore.
Drink 3 litres of water per day you will be so busy drinking and peeing you won’t have time to think at all thank me later in 21 days
In few years when you grow older you will look back at now and wish that you hadn’t wasted it being insecured.
Remember: your current time is the most precious time of your life. In one year you will be one more year older and filled with one more year of guilt of not living your life to the fullest.
**Forget what others think, like in Reddit you will find more people in the real world that will downvote you than people that will upvote you. This is normal & makes you realise that in your life only the opinions of few close people matters, rest are just junk and better when ignored.**
Don’t wait. Go and live your life fully. Express yourself fully. No one can judge you and even if they do, learn to ignore them like small garbage bins you see in a big beautiful garden.
Just like you have crippling insecurity about yourself, most other people have their own so nobody really gives two cents about it. People feed off of other people’s energy and that’s what matters. Think about yourself and work on things that you’d like to change while not worry about what others say. Rest of the world can go eat scrambled gobar. Especially relatives.
What kind of dumbass are you dating who says that you can’t compare to his sister look-wise. Smells like a red flag.
Janma jaat roog ho insecure hune. Only treatment is to stop overthinking and judging people.😂
what’s your sister’s @
doe eyes, fair skin and extrovert
>meh😒
clever
>woah😍
always wanted brown colored, lil chubby
>nice 😏
And eff your sister.
Lmao, nobody cares who you are, everyone is too busy on thinking about what others think about them, nobody is thinking about you. If you are close enough to someone then your looks has absolutely no value, they will judge you by your behaviour and personality instead.
Next time when you are in public just dont give any thought to what others think.
Accept it, tathastu.
sucks for you
so you just want attention
You must be beautiful then
People say things all the time but nobody actually cares really. everyone are on their own journey in life. so just go with the flow. live your life nobody has got time for others really.
I used to be insecure like you, then I don’t I don’t know what happened to me I said to myself I am gonna change myself, but that time I don’t know how so I decided to change my hairstyle then started doing making even though I don’t much about makeup. I learnt from YouTube hai. For me main thing was hair cut, I went to boys hair cut, many people said being a girl you should have long hair and blah blah. After cutting my hair I feel different I stop listening to people. To make me more confident on my looks I used to stand in front of mirror after waking up used to say I am gorgeous, no matter whatever people say. Also after doing make I used to feel little more prettier and I again used to say, look (my name), you are always gorgeous you just believed on people’s judgement. I don’t how slowly this boost my confidence so much now if anyone say I am not so beautiful like I feel, I answer I don’t care I am most beautiful girl in this world for me, and no one can change that.
You’ll look back at your pictures years later and think that you looked so beautiful during this time. You’ll regret wasting your time feeling insecure over things like this. Start dressing according to your body type. Give your hair a new style. Learn new skills. Focus on yourself and on yourself only. Also you deserve someone soo much better than the one who compares you to others. It’s time to dump him girly.
As a guy, I’m just 5’3″…my younger bro is 5’7″…he’s way handsome… Just like Ryan Gosling.. People use to call him jhilkey… And me not. I’m average looking/white guy. He got girlfriend in class 9… I couldn’t woo one in Bachelors too lol. But, now things have changed, I finished my undergrad and working as a +2 Computer Science lecturer, earns around 50-60k…got a nice duke 125…i wear boots all the time to look taller… Now I’ve no issues in getting girls.. I can’t grab the taller hotter one… But about my size… in fact I wooed one with 5’5″ too.
However they are not compatible with me in terms of academics class 10 failures and all. I’m saying is I thought no one would marry me.. But, now there are tens of girls available for me.
Why do you even care what other thinks about you , Just go outside without wearing Jacket, normal walk . When you feel little comfortable go every where without Jacket . Just wear nice clothes/or decent clothes
just suprised people read all that BS
There’s no way your sister is that much more beautiful than you! Give me both of your @ rn so i can check for sure
M guy n skinny as hell. 5.7 ft with 45 kg . My relatives mock me and i make it as joke. Like ma gajadi jasto chu, smack hanya jasto chu blah blah, all you can do is to stop being conscious about ur looks and accept as it is then try processes to treat in a gud way. Comparing doesnt give you satisfaction insted it hurts you. Learn to be cool 😎 with urself and gratitude universe that u exist ,live and can feel , no matter how u look. Change ur style of thinking so that you can turn the table. Good luck 👍