About 6,7 years ago, two of my friends asked me for help, which was to provide finance to pay for their Uni fees, they were abroad.
I myself not rich but helpful in some circumstances and this was their desperation. One didn’t get a student loan and the other one had to spend on rent/bills. Both out of job. Both don’t know each other but me, however they were in the same country. Both had family problem, huge financial problem, and some other this & that which they told me, one was like kept asking me nicely and the other one was kind of like begging from inside but not openly, trying to maintain the status still high.
So after some days, provided 3 lakh to a girl during the 1st half of the year and 2 lakh to a guy in the last month of the same year. They both thank me and promised to return after they finish the Uni and get a job.
A year passed. No words. Another year passed. No words again. Then Covid started, then totally out of touch in any social media for next 3 years.
Last year was busy. So all these years, no contact at all, no words from them, no words from me either, just nothing.
Then few weeks back, I opened fb, and out of curiosity because of their profile keep appearing, I looked into it, and I was like totally WOW! They got married! Totally blown out! Then happened to know they got married last year and they are doing a good business, got their own house, a car, a damn good happy life.
And I am scratching my head wandering here and there, thinking and thinking about whether to ask them to return back my money or not because I need to buy some gear for my activities and as well as for the dog care shelter that I have been volunteering.
By looking at their wedding pictures and business related pictures, I wanted to ask both of them to return right away (I can’t just waste money like that) but then it’s been already 6,7 years, I felt like it’s embarrassing to ask and it’s already too late. Still though I wanted to have it back the same amount (don’t care about the interest)
So a month ago, I took out my inner gut to speak to a guy and I asked him about the money thing (just 2 lakh, Not the 3 lakh his ‘wife’ had asked for).
Surprisingly he actually replied me and that also very happily. He told me he is still thankful and he hasn’t forgotten about it and kept saying thank you for helping, then said to me he will return after few days.
Waited, nothing, then I reminded him again, and he replied me those same words (happily again). Then waited another week, nothing. Already a month now, nothing but can see his updated post about him having fun with his wife goin on trips recently and good mid range restaurants, hotel.
It seems like chances of getting back my money is pretty low, or never a chance or it was already ended the moment when they first got. Felt like it was all well pre planned between them but I don’t have proof to think that way. Probably it was just happened to be like that. But anyway, before this post getting more longer, headache and boring, I have some question to ask myself first.
– Should I ask the girl “the wife” of his to return back my money?
– Should I just let it go away and pretend heavily to forget everything that happened? (As there is no way I am getting back my 5 lakh)
Part 2 story will continue depend upon whether I will ask her or not.
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You should threat them to give back your money. It’s 5 lakh, not 5 thousand to forget. That’s one bullet bike in Nepal. Are you that kind and rich that this event would not take a toll on you? I mean deep inside you have a feeling that you are cheated that’s why you wrote a whole long post. Common man you should ask them 5 lakh with “byaz”. You need to fight for yourself, but sad thing is that they might block you and never contact again. It should be them returning your money without you even asking. People are such a low life.
Fuck friendship
Just ask for money
Money isn’t just a piece of paper
It’s your worth, it’s the monetery form of your hardworking plus time and energy
If you’re friends can’t even understand that much then they were never friends in the first place
What ?? What a ungrateful bastard !! You can’t let go of that money bro , that’s not small amount ! Talk to them and their family , ya offcourse ask his wife for money as well , hope she is better person than that bastard !!
Lesson learned, never ever loan money. If you give, gift it and don’t expect a return. They will never voluntarily return the money. As you don’t have a relationship with them anymore (they didn’t invite or inform you of the wedding), tell them if you don’t receive the money by x date, you will be forced to make a police case and also post in social media. At the very minimum, ask for a future dated cheque for the full amount (get your full 5). That way, if the date comes and you bounce it at the bank 3 times, all their accounts in whichever bank will freeze. This is the only way, politely asking will not work.
Never loan money to family and friends and if you do do not expect it back.
Lie that you have difficult situation and struggling financially. After getting money tell him to fck off.
So you didn’t even get invited to the wedding, you are not getting the money back.
Afno paisa magna k ko laaj. Diyena vane gali ni garne ho ajhai vayena vane police complaint ni garne. Jasari vaye ni afno paisa lyaune ho.
Don’t let go of the interest amount brother.
What a shameful people. Get all your receipts ready(old text of bank transaction records) and send it to both of them. If they still ignore you, contact their family here. If they were still struggling than it’s another thing but the nerve in them.
Same here brother
Euta sathi lai ekdam nai help chaiyeko bela around 50k deko theye chalauna
Aile call garda receive hudaina phone, message reply aaudaina
Help gareko ni regret huncha yesto case ma ta
Do you have proof?
Do they live here or abroad?
Can you reach them physically?
Text msg, video or whatever keep the proof. Talk nicely to both of them, ask for money nicely. If you can reach in person, ask for cheque, this is surefire way to get your money or either land them in jail. All options are pretty much useless.
After asking nicely, if they don’t respond well or still keep dilly dallying, you make a post on your social media threatening reveal their faces with proofs, tag all of your friends along with those two.
Even after that if they aren’t willing to return your money, you reveal those, their marriage, how they lied to you ans scammed and tell others to be aware of these lying piece of shit couple.
If they don’t value your friendship and their reputation enough, then why should you care about them at all. Just expose them so that others may avoid getting scammed by these duo.
Don’t be afraid and ashamed to ask for you money and expose them if need be. Let me tell you, these kind of people con you because you are afraid and timid. These people target those who are timid, easy to emotionally blackmail. If you aren’t firm and ask for your money and expose them if need be, let me tell you, you’ll still fall for the same trick once again, be used by someone else.
You need to break the chain, confront, expose, cut your loses and not repeat the same mistake. When lending money, keep the proof, document it, ask for dated cheque(tell them it’s just a usual routine/process for you, tell them how you got conned and if they don’t want to agree to it just tell them to find someone else to ask for money), don’t lend big money even if you can, even if you have big enough proof and can win legally, getting back big money can be difficult if the other party don’t have intention to do so.
साथीलाई पैसा दिनु छ भने, दान देको समज्नु। दान फिर्ता माग्न गारो हुन्छ।
6 7 barsa agadi tyo 5 lakh meter byaj ma lagai dea vaye aile samma op le kathmandu ma ghar kini sake ko hunteo hola. Suna na dost malai ni halka paisa chaiye ko teo dina milxa ??
Try to get it in writing first. Document and then take action.
it be ya own people 😭
def put more pressure into getting your money back. birsine ta kurai chhaina. timile tetro mehenat garera kamako paisa ho.
Also, it’s useless to try getting in touch with their parents; they won’t take the responsibility 🙁
Lending $$$ to friends and relatives is like creating a enemy. Now people have no shame on not returning the money. Don’t hesitate to ask your $$$. They are not your friends, they are opportunists. Real friends never loose contact just because they can’t pay back soon. Just send both of them message in a group chat and ask all your money. They are not your friends so don’t be scared to use mean words. And don’t lend to anyone anymore.
They don’t deserve to be your friend. Why do you want to preserve this friendship? I say even if they return the money back, disconnect them from your life. They are the text book definition of evil people.
Instead of ‘asking’ to return your money, ‘demand’ it. It’s not like they are doing you a favor by returning your money back.
Throw that friendship in the trash. If you ask for money they will definitely ignore you, you won’t be their friend anymore.
Doesnot bother to ask bro, they will not give the borrowed money. I had also helped money with friends I also get the same type of reply what you get. I had asked multiple times to return but never get it back. Asking returning money is just waste of time and after certain time you will feel I am begging for my own hard earned money. I know it will be painful but just forget about your money.
Its an ungrateful act by your ‘friends’ tbh. Just put aside your shyness and ask your money. You can lie a few things to make up a good reason which you dont even need to be true. Its a huge amount for me (im a uni student). As a friend you did your duty by helping but you shouldnt forget the money you lend. Money has its own rules and friendship has its own.
bro as long u have proof that u gave them money you have to ask it from them
Afno paisa return ligna hichkhichauna hudaina, again ask for it. It’s your money and you’re not begging or anything, involve them both, give them some deadline. If again they started hesitating or some shit, post them on “Nepalese in ……..” Whatever the country is page on Facebook.
Good god. Do people have no shame. I am so sorry man. Ask for the money.
Bro yesta lai ta ma Facebook ma post garthiye tesko bau, aama, bhai sabb lai tag garera first ma damki dinthiye mannena vane garthiye. Yes budi lai sodha. Sorry post dherai lamo vayo didn’t read all but you must not be scared to ask for your own money.
K ko laaj, say it directly into their face. Jasto lai testai Behora dekhauna parcha natra tw Sabley harek choti uttano parna khojchan.
In 7 years, money doubles at 10% p.a. I would ask for 10 lakhs. My father was asked to pay interest on the money he borrowed from his father in law as he was not able to pay within 1 year. We were able to happy pay for it as it was lower than what banks would have charged.
Why you shy to ask for your money 🤑
5 lakh ko kuro ho. Tettikai xodna hudaina toit. Boru paisa magera Duke kina.
What kind of friends don’t invite you to wedding? My dude you got scammed. I’d ask her, I mean she is friend enough to ‘borrow’ money. Maybe just send them your payment details. I’d talk to them like you don’t know they are scammers. And just you expect the Money returned now. Maybe on a public post others Can see write ‘so happy to see you both doing well, glad I could help through Uni, return the 5 lahk asap, been a year too long, regards’
bruh they are gaslighting you. Be upfront and tell them you need the money back. The way they seem to be treating you, they are no friend of yours bro, be clear about that. Tell them that if they don’t return it, you will expose their ill deeds. Come on man, how could you be so gullible. I could understand if the money was a small amount but 5 lakhs, damn its real hard to earn that amount. Don’t be a nice guy anymore cause you have been a real nice guy for the past 7 years. You are not the one who should be embarrassed in this situation. Those two assholes are the ones who should be. Judging from what you said above, I am sure they will be embarrassed if this news comes out and exposes them. I dont even know you personally and I feel enraged hearing about your situation. Gather some people who know about the situation and can help you and straight up confront them.
money comes first in this case. that mf is enjoying his lavish abroad life and you are struggling to arrange gears that you need??
ask, threaten, complain anything take more than 5 lakhs if u can account for the inflation, penalty, interest.
BUT let’s be real, it would be hard for you to even get the principal
:O Wow with friends like these who needs enemies…
Step up. You’re a complete joke to them.
no doubt tara yo janma ma katta dekhayera vaye ni wasooli gara, testai ka thagna paiyincha humanity lai
Remember, don’t hesitate to step forward and remind them, it’s your money.
i had money i had friend gave money to friend , money gone , friend gone,
did you not know this formulae to life..
mah ta 50 rs ni xordina jhan 500K XD
There is a group called US nepal help network where there are lot of people from US. Just threaten them to post there and accumulate screenshot of messages you had at that time. And save the screen shot of recent discussion abou the money as well. And their intention does not look good. A well of person in US can pay that amount in 2 months.
You’ve been out of touch with them for about 5 of the last 7 years. What’s the worst that could happen? Get your money back!!
wow. what an piece of art are they. i wanna hear after u ask the other one.
same happened to me but the amount is actually small in amount compared to you
afnai poisa magna katy garo maneko tiniharulaai laaj hunu parne haina arkako poisa khayera basna anandala 4/5 hajar hora lakh po hota nepal ma basera kamauna thalo vani ta tty poisa jindagima tty saving garna ni katro time lagcha
maga bhai maga dont give a shit about what they will think
k bhncha yatro paci magna aayo ta bhancha holani magne k chara lageko poisa mageko ho tiniharuko bauko magya haina