I was sexually harassed by my cousin the day I stayed over at my aunt’s place. When I finally confessed to my parents after 5 months and they called him to be confronted, he denied it all. He said I was making “wrong allegations” against him although I have texts of him threatening me to stfu. The txt doesn’t specify him doing what he did but It should be enuf of an evidence. My fam is on my side and know better so we cut ties with my cousin’s family.
Though I want to be strong and look forward to better things (I’m starting uni next week), I still feel anxious and afraid. I feel like he might be out to get me now that everything’s out. Idk how to deal with this. I could try talking to my family but we’ve been over this and I think I want a new perspective now. Please help.
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I’m sorry this happened to you 😔 🌻
And I am not surprised he denied it all. The guilty ones often do that.
Ani I am glad your family knows and supports you.
I wish I had a perfect solution for you but I don’t. This will be a journey to heal rather than one specific solution.
I would definitely suggest professional help rather than only asking here. Get a therapist who will help you process the grief and anxiety this caused.
And if it helps to assure you, since your family is on your side, that guy will not dare to do anything. Talk to your family about your fears. If you still are not sure, I would suggest your dad talking to someone from his family explicitly stating that if he ever intends to harm you in any way, you will be making a big scene out of it in media, and that means even if he does not get punished, he and his family’s reputation will be ruined.
This will be a long process, but I am sure you will heal yourself and come out of it successfully.
Hello there, sorry to hear what you had to go through. It truly horrific and sad. You are strong, you have your family behind you, i believe everyone who comes across this post will take your side and help you in every way possible. Please dont feel you are alone and dont be afraid we are with you.
I am glad that your family is on your side. I have seen that in most cases the family does not believe the victim or the family fears losing the relation with the victimizer’s family.
Good for you for standing against him and good for your family supporting you. Fuck that human garbage.
😔be safe
Glad your family is with you. And i commend your bravery for coming out and speaking. Its normal to feel anxious and scared after such an harrowing experience.
There are lot of women organizations that will back you up if you reach out to them.
Be strong girl, God is with you ❤️
must be hard for you going thorough such a horrific incident. I don’t think he will even try to engage with you after knowing that your family is on your side. As for mentally, I don’t think I can assist you in any ways since I don’t know what it feels like going through it but I hope you’re doing good.
You got a great family :), and you seem very strong yourself. Honestly I think you should talk to your family about it. New Perspectives in life only comes when you learn to overcome your past traumas. And honestly you can prob pick anyone from these comments (including myself) to vent if you really don’t have someone irl to talk to. It’s all anonymous, so you don’t really have to worry abt things “leaking”.
Just take care yourself and your mental health. And GL in Uni.
I’m sorry this happened to you but bravo on telling your parents and credit to your parents too for confronting and cutting ties with them. People go years without the courage to tell their parents, even when they do, the parents try to keep it down so that the ‘family’ stays intact. More power and love to you ❤️
You are brave and i commend your efforts
Thank you for standing up for yourself
This should be normalised hats off to your family too
Its going to be hard yes but because of people like you these predators will stop touching innocent girls I hope we could see that day soon
Keep fighting and you can always dm if you wanna share or need someone to talk to
Shi, f that mother F. How could someone be so freaking boka. Haude manche raicha
Good thing your parents is on your side. Seen alot of parents not supporting their daughter in such case.
Hey 👋 the same thing happened to me when I was little hai, I told my dad but kei wastai garena k. You atleast had a family to support you. Ma class 6 paddha harass gareko malai ni .When I was a kid my cousin brother was a teen. He touched me in inappropriate places. After that I told my dad. He was like kei hoina talai testo lageko hola blabla. K vannu k ani. Ani kati barsa vako thiyo kei garena. Vaitika ko bela dhari harass garyo ani thulai huda ni. Such a disgusting person maile vanda ni vanina kosailai kinaki kosaile sunda ni sundaina thiyo. Usko family lai vannai kura ni ayena. (His family only supports their own child testo family ho k afnai manchey ko ris garne jealous hune kura katne testo type). After that admission garne bela ma paisa ko kura ma jhagada parera we cut ties with them. Ani tespachi po my father was like talai kaka choko thiyo hoina vandai 🤦♀️ I tried to forget that incident so many times still haunts me till this day.
Be strong and threaten to report to the police if he comes any closer.
Sorry to hear that you had to go through this. As someone who’s never been able to speak about my own experiences, you are very brave and inspiring for being able to do so. I hope you are doing well amidst these difficult times.
Bro these kids gotta learn.Life is not a porn .
If you have good friends ask them to jump him. Beat him until he’s almost dead and break a few bones as well.
Blur the names and share the texts. Don’t blur your cousin if you don’t want to. Dox him and I’ll harass him.
Aba usle denied garya xa bhaney uh roght po ho ki ??? What did he do btw??
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Handim hola
Leak his info here.. and redditors will do their job.
You should call “1098”. It is a helpline number approved by Nepal Government that helps children as well as adults that are getting harassed and abused. Get some help by calling that number.
get solid proof then file the case
If I were your family member, I would literally beat the shit out of that Cousin to the point of breaking his arm and his dick
I just can’t withstand these types of people
If I could I would burn them inside Brazen Bull 😤😤
A very close friend of mine went through some similar tough times and I know what it feels like. I’m sorry you had to go through this too😞. I wish I could be there for you as well💛. But instead of trusting someone random like me on the internet I suggest finding someone who you can pour your heart out to… Could be a close friend, a family member, your boyfriend or someone else who you can really trust. Find a good therapist as well, they will help clear the mental blocks from that event…find a therapist soon. Therapy bhanera aftero na mannu. Therapy jaana thalepaxi it is just a matter of time ani we will come out better than ever. Don’t let such pathetic psychos hamper your inner peace and well being. Stay well and live a good life 🌼.