As a younger brother, it worries me.

As a younger brother, it worries me.

My sister is 27 and she is still making excuses to get married. She used to love this guy (same caste)but his family refused for marriage (me and my dad literally went to his family home with marriage proposal)and after that incident, she is like I am not getting married in my lifetime. Not that, she is waiting for her love of life(she hates him to the core) but she keeps on refusing every marriage proposals my family brings to her. She is the financial head in reputed INGO and earning more than some of the guys of her age but the problem is that she has become too egoistic. Australia ko PR wala kta lai reject handeko yrr. We personally knew him since childhood as he was a relative of my sanima. He is a humble guy but she thinks he is lower than him and considers him loser. I am worried if she even is going to get married esto talle.


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37 thoughts on “As a younger brother, it worries me.

  1. “Australia ko pr wala ktlai reject handeko yarr”
    Mero question is why are you putting people with green card, pr in a pedestal.
    Just because its sb who resides in a different country doesn’t mean automatic bihey hunaparcha!!

    You said she works as a financial head. Maybe she sees a future here where she can achieve even much bigger things. Maybe she doesn’t wanna give up on her current career trajectory just because she gets to reside in a different country!!

    Ani 27, “getting into an aunty phase.” What the hell man. Where i am, most of them getting married after 30s, tei ni its more of a personal choice. Ani by the sound of it she sounds like a career driven person, and most likely she sees herself in a place where sky is the limit.

    Stop thinking abt what societal norms say and let her focus on her life. You do not need to worry abt her. Let her worry abt herself. She will marry when she wants and even if she decides to never marry then again you needn’t worry about her.

  2. “As a brother I’m worried about her. She is highly egoist cause how can someone decline PR wala guy” get off your high horse bro. She’s older than you, earns more than you. It might be hard for her to like men as she has examples like her ex and you around her. Take that into consideration and better than defending yourself here think about the places you can improve as a man thinking well about women. Cause this trajectory is just off

  3. Your sister is leading the charge, being the financial head in a reputed INGO and all. Perhaps she’s merely scouting for someone on her wavelength—someone who can keep up! It’s about holding out for a partner who meets her halfway, who respects her journey and her success. Dignity and self-respect are not synonymous with ego! So she turned down Mr. Australia PR—maybe she’s after more than just a convenient passport? Let’s hope she finds her equal, not just someone who’s paraded with the ‘nice and humble’ tagline!

  4. You no need to worry about her brother. As mentioned, she is doing well financially. Don’t pressure her. Let her figure out. There is no certain age to get married. I have seen people getting married at under 18, and close to 40. There are some not interested to marry. That’s totally fine too.

    You focus on your life. And make sure you and your parents never treat her like a burden in your family just because she ain’t getting married.

  5. If she is capable of becoming financial head of an INGO here in Nepal. She is capable of getting that PR herself if she chooses to go abroad later in her life.
    Australia ko PR wala lai reject garyo bhanera egotistical re. Esto bhai payesi dusman kina chaiyo. Gtfo

    Like focus on your life. It’s not like you’re the one who’s paying her bills. Afnai didi lai aunty bhayo bhanne haru pani huda raicha. Wonder how misogynistic this guy is to other women.

  6. Let’s do some check list:

    – Is she an adult
    – is she financially independent
    – is she well educated
    – is she able to make a rational decision on her own

    If the answer to all of this is yes and she doesnt want to get married then leave her be. She has a plan and you should let her execute it, provided that she takes responsibility if things doesnt workout.
    Marriage is not for everyone.

  7. OH MY GOD!! The MISOGYNY in this post!! You should start your own podcast. So glad and thankful my younger brother is nothing like you. Your sister will be disappointed on you, as a elder sister to a brother i can guarantee that she would have fought for you with everyone if you were in her position.

  8. She is just 27 and at the peak of her career, it is her decision whether she wants to marry or not. And even if she doesn’t want to get married ever, what’s the problem. She earns well she will do amazing in life by herself. Let her meet someone naturally.. why would a new generation career women settle for any random guy that she doesn’t like.

  9. Bro timi afno didi ko maya le bhaneko le matra halka sense lagira xa natra you sound 100 % tyo tole ko aunty jasto ‘herr na 30 lagi sakyo bihe garna xai mandaina kaile baccha janmaune kaile ghar banaune’ – this is what you sound like and your dad and you gayera didi ko bf sanga reject bhayesi she probably got effected nita tell your dad and family didi ko afno echya ho didi le j garxa aafai garxa and trust her. You all sound kasto jabarjasti ghar bata nikalna khojeko jasto kassam

  10. A woman is egotistical because she doesn’t want to marry a person she has no romantic interest in? Holy regressive patriarchy, Batman!

    Let her heal and let her take her own decisions. She’ll be fine. You just worry about your life.

  11. If this was my vae confessing, I’d tell him that you don’t have to worry about my marriage. Tyo Australia ko kta malai ramro laena hola, kei kura chitta bujhena hola. Stranger snga bihey garnu is a BIG thing bro. Give her some time, let her enjoy her single life and her money. And whenever she is ready, she is ready. If she is not then she’s not.

  12. If she doesn’t want to get married. Let her not get married. Why is that your headache? She can pay for herself live by herself, if she wants a partner seems like she is capable of it. Leave her alone

  13. Her life her choice.

    If she has managed to get job in such level I don’t think she is too stupid to ruin her life.

    Let her process through on her own.

    There will be guys willing to marry her and be house husband. I would.

    Australia is not heaven. If she had accepted she would most probably have to leave the job get something lower in Australia. Or be housewife to some IT guy.

  14. What you need to understand is, your sister is more skilled and has more sense than all of you. She is doing it because she is just fed up with ‘ bihe garna parcha yesko pr cha wala mentality’. Leave her alone and she’ll find a best partner.

  15. OP , you don’t need to worry , she will be fine , there is no age to marriage , she just needs someone to complement her worth and be a partner rather than a ride to Australia.

    On a side note , INGO tira job kasari paune sodheu na didi lai , KUSoM bata MBA gareko cha and social work ma ekdum interested chu.

  16. So k vayo pr wala lai reject hanera ? Teme lai just sunaunu xa oh wow pr wala lai reject haneko such a big deal oh wow lol even my sister rejected usa pr wala so what? She doesn’t want to get married then leave it eventually yesto time aaunxa she will fall in love again or she feels like aaba i want to get married

  17. Vai ,,u must think u did something but u r just one of man in this patriarchal society who thinks marriage is an ultimate goal..Ur sis rejects a guy n u think it’s her ego bcoz c is financial secure or whatever is in Ur mind…dude chill down Ur sis knows better…

  18. My sister rejected USA green card guy & chartered accountant guy. My mom was very upset. We used to think that she doesn’t have brains. Later she married Nepal man basne kta. They both are very happy now. There’s no way she would be this much happy if she had married US green card guy. So, OP, she will marry the guy that she chooses. Gone are the days when families decide which guy to marry.

  19. Bro timi afno didi ko maya le bhaneko le matra halka sense lagira xa natra you sound 100 % tyo tole ko aunty jasto ‘herr na 30 lagi sakyo bihe garna xai mandaina kaile baccha janmaune kaile ghar banaune’ – this is what you sound like and your dad and you gayera didi ko bf sanga reject bhayesi she probably got effected nita tell your dad and family didi ko afno echya ho didi le j garxa aafai garxa and trust her. You all sound kasto jabarjasti ghar bata nikalna khojeko jasto kassam

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