I have put several efforts on girl.i can’t really communicate with my opposite gender as well,I am not introvert but really can’t talk with girl smoothly.My friends also know that.They have tried to set me up with some girls,that doesn’t age well.One part of me wants be to loved by someone and one part doesn’t care about that at all because I feel like when you are being loved,you will have certain responsibilities,duties and ofc you will have to take care of her,you will have to accept all her flaws.Personally I think I can do everything from my side but
TBH I don’t trust any girl.I don’t know why but I have trust issues,I feel insecure.
If I get betrayed by any girl or if I ever get attached with any girl and they leave me,I think I can’t deal with that mentally.i can’t go down that road ever again.
It’s not like any girl has betrayed me.Ma try garchu but get nothing in return,may be I don’t express my feeling,I expect them to understand by my action.
I want every girl that has been close to me to do well.i never wanted to take advantage of them.
I have never been in a relationship,never been physical with anyone(not even kiss), I had several chance to get laid,I never wanted that.
If I ever going to get physical with anyone that would be with someone who will be with me forever this sounds like I am conservative but I am not.
I’m blessed in my life. I have good friends.they care about me.my family also love me.they also care about every detail of my life.
One part of me has accepted my fate that I will forever be alone and another part wants to keep trying but I’m really tired.Try garera kasari love parla ra ani aba kunai keti sanga suru dekhi bolni,communicate garincha jasto lagdaina.
If I ever talk with girl,I know what will be the end result at last I will be alone.
I’m 20Y male
I have my responsibility now I can’t spend my youth looking for girl to talk with me and love me.
I am continuing my study, hoping to do better in life.
Just asking if someone has felt this way
View on r/Nepal by Wide-Citron5325
Being loved is kinda hard in these days those who found there loved ones are really blessed as well as lucky. Mero ta communication skills and introvert kind of nature le nai garda hola aahile samma love napareko na crush xa na ex xa na kei naii xa kahile kahii chaii i really wanted to be loved by someone tara due to my trust issues kasailai biswas ni gardina. Aahile ta career tira naii dhyaan xa.
You sound way more self aware than me when I was 20. Don’t rush into anything. Please. Take all the time that you need. Because as a 28 year old woman, I think relationships are very overrated and you truly can’t love anyone unless you love yourself. Have a good community and friends around you. I think that’s what matters the most.
https://preview.redd.it/j5rs68xpibub1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cf5069c354bd57e0e0bf043a6d6b297778f4f3ca
You are only 20. Keep working towards what you want to achieve.
Watch 500 days of summer
Manche le soche jasto hunna love ma bhanera babal explain cha movie ma
I have never made a female friend in real, because I neither approach nor talk to a girl unless someone comes and talks to me, but I have made female friends online. And whenever I or they get close to me, I seem to lose interest, and because of that I have hurt few people. So getting a girlfriend is a no no for me. I’ve become kind of cold to everyone. I’ll probably stay single forever and it’s fine by me. Loneliness has become a part of me. Also, I am the most boring person a girl can find, I don’t have a good fashion sense, I wear mask everywhere because of my insecurity. I don’t like flirting and have never flirted. And I know that no one’s gonna find me attractive.
Yes, I feel like none will love me but I really don’t care about it.
it is so relatable for me
Why is this sounding relatable sir? Especially this part: Personally I think I can do everything from my side but TBH I don’t trust any girl.
Had a traumatic experience before, now my trust issue is at it’s peak.
Bro all these nepali people have the same problem… LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! Brotha you sound more depressed with life in general than it being with just a girl. Learn to love yourself first and work on your shortcomings. Become the man you want to be.
Also you can have a great life and still not be in love with yourself. You can’t love others till you love yourself. Otherwise, it’s just disguised obsession
Lmao we are literally same brother! And by same i mean literally same in everything that you mentioned above (the family detailing part,your age and even the thoughts you got,studies etc) except that i aint got no good best friends like yours. For now i just suggest you to spend and enjoy every moment with friends and family. Mero ta jhan sathi ni chaina tmro jasto .I am even trying to make good friends but never succeded in that too.Hope soche jasto kti paincha ki soon future ma!😉
Bro kina darako? Aile career ma dhyan deu paxi family le kt khojdinxa. Daraounai pardaina.
If u wanna get laid go to mediocre clubs ,Tya rizz hanne .Afno gamema bharparcha laid hune nahune.
Being loved is never a guaranteed thing. It’s only very recent that being loved and having a soulmate became a thing. Think of the centuries before this, yes stories of Romeo Juliet Anarkali, jodha Akbar, this that did exist but they existed to fill the void of the need for love. Which easily implies that being loved and finding love was a rare occurrence. So take this as an advice not an edgy emo noone will love you message. Life will thrive without love.
Seems like you are going through low selfesteem phase (don’t worry this is completely normal), I would say work on yourself i.e body, pick a hobby invest in it,have a steady independable income, socialize . And stop thinking about being in relationship every time you meet a new girl rather build the tension up slowly become good friends first.
Speaking of trust issues there’s nothing you can do about it really just because you give 100% in your relationships doesn’t mean the later would do the same and you shouldn’t expect them to especially this Gen Z generation that’s just something you gotta come in terms with.
anyways i hope you find it helpful and remember most of the people go through this.
I have made up my mind that after years of trying i still got no girl in my life ( someone who loves me ) and now I’ve completely given up trying to get any females in my life and yes I’ve got the lesson that i don’t deserve love from anyone i love myself my family and i dont need anyone in my life .
Bro timi mero long lost twin ho ki kya. Thakai mero situation jastai cha ta. Age ,thoughts sabai yeutai cha. Ma DM garchu, lets be friends.
Bro the feeling is same
Oh fuck it’s my story 😶
same here.
thaxa mathi ko sab excuses ho. nabolne manchey bhayesi, kt pattauna bolna parne huna parxa, effort lagauna parxa, tara effort lagauna man xaina, scared if going all effort to waste.
NOOOO never let that make you feel like you’re the odd one out. It does happen,I know a few ppl who have been going thru a similar situation and it’s ok it doesn’t matter all that matters is whether you love yourself or not,if they don’t appreciate your efforts then they aren’t worth it.
Try to focus on yourself and be a better person for yourself
Love always comes in the most unexpected state in your life,trust me one day you’re gonna find the most amazing girl ^^
Just enjoy when an opportunity presents itself.
Even your parents are gonna leave you forever some day, what magic could someone’s daughter do to you life? Don’t expect people to be there forever. Enjoy the limited time you get to connect with people and be prepared for them to leave anytime. (Don’t get overly attached).
Love yourself..