For the most part, I don’t mind being with myself. But here I am sitting in a cafe and finding myself alone. I do not know how it got to the point where I can sit with my laptop and work in a cafe close by my home for three days straight and yet, somehow, I do not stumble upon anyone I know.
Where is everyone? I don’t understand it. I studied with 108 classmates in my school, 2 of them are no longer in the world, but yet, out of 106 people, I can’t count more than 6 people in Nepal. The highschool case is very similar, the highschool I had studied in had about 300 students. I used to be a social butterfly back then, so I knew about everyone, and yet, I never stumbled upon anyone.
It is not like I only go to one type of place, from tarkari bazar in Kalimati to Cafes in Jhamsikhel to Restaurants in Lazimpat, I have been everywhere and quite frequently, and yet I never coincidentally meet anyone.
Everyone I call is unreachable and when I text them, I find they are not in Nepal. It’s been 4 years since I returned back from India, and I’ve barely met 4 friends from back in school and 1 from back in high-school.
I find myself questioning, where did it go wrong that anyone who can afford to prefers to go abroad than stay here. I find myself questioning, did I do wrong by staying myself?
Don’t get me wrong, I am earning enough to the point I do not have to think about going abroad, but that’s all. And in moments like these I question myself, should I just go abroad as well?
Some days I would like to stumble upon old friends, get to know how they are doing, talk about how I am doing. And yet no matter where I go, all I find are strangers.
This is not limited to friends, last year in dwyali (kun puja), the group who used to handle things (mid 30s) said, “aba hamro palo sakiyo, tmaharle ho aba sabai manage garne” and I look around, noone my age is there. How did we reach this point?
I talk with my clients abroad, and everyone talks about how difficult it is to live there, and how they’re stuck. They talk about how the life they show in Social Media is a fugazi. And yet no one is returning back.
I know when I will get busy with work sunday, this thought cannot take priority, and yet, every once in a while, I find myself questioning, where the f is everyone?
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There has been countless discussions on similar topics here. Something radical needs to be done, maile vanthe sadhai, tara aba k garne next year I am also going to be among those nonexistent people you mentioned about. Paila afnai sochna paryo, even while having good family ko strong financial foundation, I cannot miss out. And I will eventually get stuck in the cycle of mortgage payments, PR status alignment and lopsided work-life balance.
We need change, but how?
Nepal ma average salary 1 lakh hola monthly.
Tyo ta america /australia/ ma labor le 3 lakh nepali kamauchan.
Ani nepali haru paisa save garna janne nai hunchan.
Afai pakauchan, room share garchan, etc etc garera month ko 1.5 lakh nepali minimum save garchan. Ajha spouse pani sagai chan bhane spouse ko ni paisa aaucha kam bata. Month ko 3 deki 4 lakh nepali save huncha. Tyo ta jati j gare pani nepal ma hudaina. Ani ghar kinchan, car kinchan loan ma, tei tirda tirdai busy hunchan.
Aba labor le eti kamauchan bhane eso degree holder le kati kamauchan hola.
Ani bidesh ko passport linchan. Passport liyesi ghumna sajilo. Nepal ko passport rakhera kati wata desh chi ghumna jana paincha ra?
3/4 barsa ko struggle garchan, tespaxi PR nikalesi paisa aauna thali halcha. Tyo paisa nepal ko compare ma dherai nai huncha.
Ani tetro PR nikalda samma 7-10 years euta desh ma kati sakcha. Eklai struggle garira huncha. Life chalira huncha, paisa huncha. Ghum gham huncha. Afnu energy jati PR nikalda samma sakisakya huncha ani aba chill garna time ma ko farkincha hola? Road/ train / online system j use garna ni sajilo huncha, ani nepal ma k kathmandu ko dhulo dhuwa khana ko aaucha? Tei bhako hola. Kati ta 10 barsa ma farkida tini haru ko immune system le kathmandu ko dhuwa sahana ni sakdaina 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe its time to find someone new. I nowdays try to connect with the ones planning or working towards their future in Nepal.
Also, I find myself alone in Cafes with my laptop, perhaps we have not pivoted yet, as an outgoing mass as ‘sitting alone in Cafe working’ mass.
90% (actual data) of my SLC, +2 and Bachelors mates are now in different time zones as well.
Damnnnn i am seeing my future in u. And i dont like it. Sounds kinda scary.
they grew up and moved on. Im almost 40 now and I feel the same.
I once saw a reel or a meme where it was written something like ” I will be coming back to nepal after five years, its been 15 years since then” banera this thing spoke in such a volume ki i be scared and confused about what is that they know that i dont.
Relatable post I guess … Another one of my friends received his visa for Canada today.
I think everything comes down to one thing: Money, though many people who are earning here, it’s not adequate for their quality of life. No matter how much one earns it doesn’t suffice them, cause the living expenses have risen so much. Living abroad is not easy at all, paying all the expenses on your own, but the pay is good (as far as I know). Correct me if wrong!
Tyei ho people become more independent once they live abroad.
I’m here where you at mate ??
Yestai ho
just saw a girl from college days today, didnot talk to her back then but had seen her often in college to remember the face
>and everyone talks about how difficult it is to live there, and how they’re stuck. They talk about how the life they show in Social Media is a fugazi. And yet no one is returning back.
Being a middle class in United States is 100x better than being upper class in Nepal.
And here i am. Jata gayeni vetinxan school ra highschool ka haru. Dekhna ni man lagdaina and yet. Sabko experience farak hudo raixa. Timlai nadekhera eklai va xau malai dekhi dekhi ni eklai xu.
I feel the same. It feels like I am in the movie ‘No country for old men’s far in the desert where you meet no one. I had changed 3 university to complete my degree after plus 2 and one new university I joined for Masters, yet I meet no one I know. I stroll around ktm, newroad most of the time and it’s empty all unknown faces. Corona probably opened the new portal which made me shift to this new reality maybe. I had more than 1000 friends from my learning days. Now I have 0.
Atleast for me, from a class of 100 in med school, 1/3rd are in the US (or applying to be), 1/3rd are in Nepal/India/Maldives/UAE, 1/3rd are in the UK. Only 1 friend from my close circle of 8 is still in Nepal.
Let me guess
30% in Australia
25 % in Japan
15% in US/UK each.
10% in other developed countries that Nepalese go to(Canada, Germany, Denmark etc)
5% are probably still in Nepal. You’re just not running into them because cafes in Jhamsikhel or a restaurant in Lazimpat is too expensive to go to on a Nepalese salary. You might have some luck at the tarkari bazar if you persist long enough since there are only about 5% left here, its gonna take some time though. /s
Nepal is a shit hole. The only chance i get to socialize these days is Tinder dates. Handful of old friends remaining, some married to a person, others to their work. Getting together and having fun is a once in a blue moon event. Meanwhile, the bond keeps weakening. And when did making new friends become so hard?
I will read anything that this guy will write henceforth.