my dad drinks alcohol and me my mom and dad fight every night. First he pick fight with me and Blame my mom after that. I know this is because of his drinking alcohol but my mounts can’t say anything like dad don’t drink alcohol type shit I can’t say any single words. My dad also has not good relation with my mother in past. I really want them to Divorce btw I love my dad sm. I wanna kill my self.
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something similar, my dad and mom almost separated two times, but relatives came together and somehow consoled them. when I was in grade 9, my dad went abroad and only then things got better. So my dad sent remitance and I think money helped pay debt, helped buy few things for me and other family members. now they are old, they fight sometimes, my dad makes my mom cry simply from phone sometimes, but both my mom and dad have developed some humor with age and I think now they are both happy(not super great happy) but not that sad. And they also saw me graduate abroad, got nice jobs, setup small company here. so I guess my dad going abroad and that giving both of them space and more importantly improving financially, and finally me and brothers doing well in life, I guess made them somewhat satisfied and happy.
I think divorce is the only option out of an abusive relationship. No one deserves to be worried about getting beaten up at their own home by someone they should be trusting. This is the main reason women are fighting to have some part of property after divorce. It’s considered taboo in our society but if you were getting beaten up and abused, F the taboo, F the society!
1. Talk to him when he is sober.
2. If he is sorry and wants to change, seek expert help, psychiatrists can bring him out of the alcohol craving.
3. If he thinks he can do that because he is the man of the house, threaten that you will call the police woman support cell next time he is abusive to mom.
4. Don’t kill yourself. You’re too precious for your mother.
5. Good luck.
Ask for trusted relatives’ help ig
Don’t think about changing ur dad or ur parents’ relationship. Think abt healing ur trauma. It’s the most important thing. You should immediately start talking to a therapist.
Fight back when he is being absurd. My uncle was like that too, my cousins started to beat him up once they started being stronger. Ek-dui jhappad Dai harle pitna incident bhaye paxi he stopped creating scene after being drunk. He now drinks comes home and sleeps and doesn’t come out of his room.
Jati j vayeni haat chai nauthau .fresh vako bela kura gara
I’ve seen more worse than this bro. Don’t worry everything will be alright.
Give him methanol instead of ethanol
Get help .
Drink together
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Hey! If you wanna talk to someone you can DM. Personally kei garna nasake pani i will listen
Take him to a doctor that specializes in alcohol issues. The situation with your dad and mom will not get better until he stops drinking. It is not easy to quit drinking without getting some help. There are medicines that help an alcoholic quit drinking. Ask the doctor about Naltrexone, it has helped multiple people I know abstain from alcohol.
I have been in the same scenario for god knows how long. I have asked my mom to get a divorce multiple times but she doesn’t listen. I have also wanted to kill myself multiple times because of this hopelessness and not being able to do anything. And I am someone who can actually do something professionally. But still I can’t do anything. But I decided to live only for my mom. I started earning, being financially independent and also gave my mom the most I could. I still do. I am alive only for her. I live to give her a better life. So I guess you can do the same. Give your mother a good life. I am saving to buy a new house. When I buy a house I am taking only my mom with me.
So what you have got to do is figure out a plan to get out of this.
And one additional thing I have done is I have stopped giving crap to my father. So when he starts misbehaving after having the drinks, I go and stand in front of him and he gets intimidated.
Y is divorce the only option? Take him to a psychiatrist or take him to some other doc first get a whole body test done if he’s been drinking for a long time it’s probably affected his body and then you can build from that. I know a very strict gastroenterologist (I think that’s what he is) who is very good at convincing stubborn patients. Dm if u go this route.
Habits of nost of the alcholist
Let him go
Bistrai milaune ho bro
If you love your dad dispite these all then find some good alternative if don’t then try living far away from your father with your mother for few years and check if he improves if not then divorce
Are you gharbeti of that other dude?
It looks like you need to fist get some help for yourself. And with your parents it seems like divorce is the best option for both your mom and your health. Take care brother.