Like some of us Nepalis who live abroad or was raised in different country, we have had different experiences to our brothers and sisters from the motherland. I can only speak for myself that I can say that I had a more privileged upbringing. Though my parents sacrified a lot and worked very hard for a future for us.
Are there any thoughts or stereotypes Nepali locals have for people like us? Just a curious thought.
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We don’t care. We already have too many things on our plates.
Some guys and girls in Nepal are pretty damn westernized themselves if I must say so myself.
Having lived overseas as a ‘westernized Nepali’, I’ve been raised in a strict Nepali environment, but when I visited Nepal since 2019 to 2022 every year or so, I’ve seen the mindset there is even much more forward than older generation Nepalis who have lived abroad….
Some of the youths there have much more freedom than I ever did as a ‘westernized Nepali’
I believe that when an individual of Nepali ethnicity was raised in a different country, they often need to adapt to the culture of their place of upbringing rather than their country of origin so there will be difference in a person’s behaviour (if that makes sense). So, we or atleast me, don’t really care abt it as long as there are no stereotypes.
Tyo bideshi gym chai janxa ki nai ??
I’m jealous rather. Kei issue tw xaina.
Here’s my story. Even when I was in Nepal I had pretty decent accent, I never had Nepali accent while speaking English. And even back then my friends thought of me as pretentious and mocked on my accent. When I came to the US I adapted pretty well since language is a big part of accepting foreigners in America. I always get asked if I was born here. And those friends who mocked me also came to America and they have Nepali accent, not that it’s bad but I can tell they’re not happy about their ability to communicate. Takeaway is: people will judge you based on their mental abilities and things they can perceive. It shouldn’t bother you. Unless you yourself feel like you look down upon someone due to your privileges (alarm for subconscious biasness) you don’t need to worry about what people might think of you.
Until and unless your accent doesn’t sound forced/fake, you don’t judge how people are here in Nepal and you’re chill and don’t take yourself too seriously, WE DO NOT CARE.
I think most of them do not have friends as I see most people in reddit and discord. It’s definitely hard for them to cope.
I’ll try my best to answer. I grew up outside Nepal, In Canada/US, but have visited Nepal just about every year, sans 2020 since I was about 5. I’m in my late 20s now. I can speak nepali fluently, since my parents forced me to learn from a young age.
It really depends on your social class frankly, and I can almost tell which posters are from what socio-economic strata, from reading their comments. For wealthy KTM based families, there’s hardly a difference. Their kids go to private schools (RatoB, Lincoln) and many will already have close relatives/cousins who not only live abroad, but grew up abroad. These kids are pretty westernized, and live a life (going out, LOD, trips, etc..) that in many ways, is far more “free” compared to a regular foreign raised NRN. Kids from elite class backgrounds (and by this I mean culturally and economically, not just economically) probably don’t think of NRN kids as that different, since they have a shit ton of relatives, who are just that. If you’re an NRN from a wealthy KTM elite background, going back to Nepal is going to be seen as a ‘fun’ thing to do. You’re cousins have fancy toys (bikes, cars), and your mamas/uncles are bigshots who know how the country operates.
It’s a massive gap the minute you leave the upper echelons of Nepal, and venture into the regular working class population, both in KTM, and outside. They often don’t know how to deal with you for one. They’re going to be backwards, in comparison to most NRN kids. The biggest difference here is that they possess an alarmingly strong inferiority complex with their english skills. They won’t understand that the accent you have isn’t ‘fake’ lol, but since they hardly have any real exposure to the west, there’s little you can do to teach them. The further down you go, frankly, the shittier it gets. It will be hard for you, a middle class NRN kid, to deal with anyone in Nepal whose below the 90th percentile.
Most things in Nepal are class based, far more than other societies really. I come from a well of KTM background, and always loved, and i mean LOVED, visiting Nepal as a kid. My NRN friends here whose extended families came from humble backgrounds in Chitwan or some other city however , fucking hated going back, and would count the days till they could head back to CAN/US/AUS. I honestly found it sad, but understandable, as their quality of life in Nepal, with their relatives, was bad to say the least.
Lastly, the same distinction can be found with Nepali immigrants/students in the west, who come post high school. You’ll get along with the KTM kids far more readily, in comparison to the regular kids. I’m sure I’ll get shit for this, but I’ll just say it, village Nepal and KTM nepal are two completely different worlds, and that’s before taking socio-economic status into account.
There’s a reason why only the rich NRN kids, or rich Nepali kids really, ever return or stay in Nepal. It’s a shitty life for the vast majority, and that majority tends to have a bad habit of taking it out on their NRN family members, one way or another, and I’ve seen many shitty examples.
Sorry if I ended up rambling a bit lol.
Also, I live in the US too and people always assume that I have tonnes of money to spare. It’s not like I don’t but my priorities have changed. I earn enough Tara I don’t spend money on eating and living off lavish, I don’t party and go clubbing. Tara nepal jada they always assume ki I’m not doing all these things because I’m stingy. Nepal ma chai chill garne and living in the present is glorified whereas back of my head I always think about how I can save and think of affording a house in the US. Which is quite basic.
I think first generation of Nepalese abroad cannot motivate their children to be connected with Nepal or Nepali culture in a more acceptable way to their children unlike our southern neighbors. This is my personal experience though.
People raised out of Nepal have a different experience and have a broader spectrum to everything. You will be loved by your family and friends back home. But socializing and building relationships will be troublesome moment you have disagreements because youths in Nepal are extremely hostile when it comes to disagreements; are filled with pseudo-nationalism & false sense of pride. You will not enjoy the company in long run.
They should be banned from returning to Nepal😅
They drink mineral water.
They think Kathamndu is unlivable.
They have diarrhoea
Their fav food is gundruk
They miss momo
Lastly, if their kids speak Nepali, its freaking shame.
I don’t mind at all. The language thing is already somewhat a problem in Nepal itself for English medium students. However all they need to have is:
1) no obscure sense of superiority for being a western raised
2) be smarter than your average University American that can’t answer what is the national language of America or name a country in Europe.
Nothing bro, nobody should care about these things.
We don’t. We don’t think of them.
simple, We dont care.
simply don’t care about people
i would probably fit into that westernized nepali category. came to US when I was 10 and lived here for the past 16+ years now. its weird for real since my values and stuff feels different than my family’s and my extended family in nepal. especially trying to get into relationships
All to their own.
Chaaley. Chaali.
Westernized? Care to explain with some examples? I don’t understand this quite clearly.
Out of touch from Nepali society.
Most of Kathmandu and urban young are westernised in some way.
kuire ko beu
Do not care
My cousins who did not have the opportunity to go abroad don’t really talk to me that much when I go back and don’t ask me any questions.
Not saying its jealousy but just an observation
“oye mya yo ta kya dhani yaar”
Goes on in our list first
As long as you dont bring up shit like how Nepal should be and criticize everything about it then we think you as same.
Well some so called westernized Nepalis just commented Nepalis way a backward way of living, for me personally that sums up my thoughts for them. I have seen some Youtube channels where westernized Nepalis were freaking out about some white tourist wearing Nepalis cultural dress calling them cultural appropriation and shit. Its so funny cause actual Nepalis feels happy when foreigners wear our dress but look like ex Nepalis came across as woke jerkoff.
Actually I can speak for other for me. I don’t care. Heck I mostly don’t care about anyone except the people i am close with physically, a girl and few friends.
I had one relative who is in US, we talked and he was good at nepali so I didn’t hage any issues on conversation. I didn’t find much difference with him other than I was considering few Nepal specific problem with his life in USA. From what I know Nepalese born are fascinated by US born relatives but its not much of vice versa. Fascinated in a sense you are curious whats it like there. They can hop on a plane and stay here in nepal for a while so they not being curious about Nepal or us is understandable.
For most part we don’t care and we think you were lucky to have parents in foreign thats it.
kattar bhagauda ka chora chori haru.
What am I supposed to think about incoming identity crisis, mild racism, fake free will and people that invade taxes? Everything about west is mid. Living among people that see you as ungabunga, donot respect your culture and that are so self proclaimed doesnot sound attractive to me. Living there must suck ass is my stereotype.