Don’t know why I feel like sharing this?
First thing first, i am from a broken family. So, don’t know what a female (Mom, sis, Granny, cousin) love is.
Never had any female friends in my life.
Recently 4 months ago, i was arranged to have a arranged marrage (Marriage about in 2 years ). My fiancee is nice and may be she is the one i might be praying for.
The Problem is having a girl for the first time in my life weakens my trust Issues. I have been on my own for long enough that i believe “You either use other or other uses you.”
Everything is fine at the moments i am talking / chatting with her. But while i am busy with my works/Study, the real neghtmare starts. I just think what might be she doing, chatting, talking with others. I can’t express the level of jealousl i get when i see comments of her male friends(particularly one) on her post on Social media & her comments on their post.
I am just in “the Middle” i don’t know what to do. I am doubting myself and questioning my existence and feelings. I think I am unsecure and overacting.
May be i am or will be a Narcissist.
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Trust issues are real issues..maybe hangout more often with her…meet her parents often…trust will be built eventually..✋
It is excellent that you are self aware enough to identify your issues. Insecurities happen, but if you continue to let it grow and consume you, it will have TERRIBLE consequences. Infact, you might even end up continuing the same cycle of broken families.
Your feelings are valid but it is not healthy. By this, I mean that if you had a bad headache, your pain is valid but it is still not good for you. But you need to do something about it before it consumes you. Please, please seek professional advice on this through a therapist.
Again, the fact that you have accepted this as an issue is so brilliant and I am very very proud of you. Now take a step further and do something about it before it grows into a horrible thing. Therapy, please!
It’s okay man . Calm down . Timla afnai head ma dherai sochau bhana trust me timro action eventually testai hunxa you will start asking your wife question and doubting without any reason. Mero ex pani testai thiyo I know he loved me a lot Tara he was never able to trust me fully from the start. Maila dherai sochina yo kura Tara after some time it felt heart breaking because I loved him genuinely Tara the thought that he couldn’t even trust me used to haunt me ekdamai. Ani testai action la garda I was miserable for months . Mentally ekdam na ramro feel bhako Malai. So please don’t let your insecurities ruin your relationship. Barta alik dherai time spend gara with your wife. Date jau . Kahila picnic . Night walk make an effort and get to know her . Don’t try to break her friendship with anyone. Respect her choices Ani afno insecurities afai laimprove gara or talk to her . Get close to her Ani timlai yesto thoughts aaudaina hola. Don’t let your thoughts ruin your beautiful reality.