Festivals makes me sad. Context to today, Laxmi puja garda garda 8pm bhayo ani sanima ko ma jani bhanne jasto kura bhathyo. And my mom out of nowhere started to burst with anger and said kina eti dhila garirakheko, jamma puja garna ni eti time lagxa. Puja dhila gareko because we had to close our shop, It has always been same and yes obviously my mom and dad didn’t participate in puja. She stared yelling jamma eti puja garna ni katti time lagako, aba arko barsa dekhi puja garna pardaina hyangtyang. I was like fuck it bhanera ma nikaraidiye. Not just tihar, mero mommy lai j kura ma bhayeni kasari drama banau bhanne jasto hunxa. I don’t know what has gotten into her. Malai ta jhan dekhi sahadaina. It’s just so sad.
What’s up with nepali moms and their jiddi pana, afule vaneko hunai parne, sano tino kura pani thulo lafada garne, afu kahile galat nahune, back down garnu paryo vane mare sara hune?
Kassam majority nepali moms seem to suffer from this condition on various levels, some are mild and some extreme.
only during festivals? lol mine are like that 24/7 i spent my entire life being tramautised every single day tortured and traumatised even when i dun do anytghing wrong i just am a very good person with no any bad intentions but i am always blamed and done bad and treated bad……….starting with own family then because of them other people like my relatives and neighbours cus afnai bau aama le ta hepxa vani others will surely do as well
Mom and I always get in fights during festivals because I am not religious like her. I have never been the person who enjoys doing puja and all. We had a huge argument yesterday cause I am not like how she wants me to be. Whenever I try to tell her how everyone is different and How I can never be like her, this statement is enough to ignite a fight and she doesn’t hesitate to slap me here and there. I got my period this morning. Now I am not allowed to enter a certain room. Nothing makes me happier than this. I sneak into the kitchen when no one is around. This has always been a way. Since I remember I have never enjoyed any festivals. Far from being sad, i enjoy the food and no one’s trantum affects me as it used to.
Whats her age?? Heard anything about menopause?? Google about it and see if symptoms matches, book consultation with doctor. Hormonal and body changes in women makes them irritable. Idk if there is any other family issue, i am just looking through medical lens.
Manxa ko psychology ho, change vae rakhxa kaila k kaila k. It might also be because she has some sort of depression, dad la dharae tension di rako, financially garo parirako. Din dinae kunae tension vae rakho vane people start acting irritated. That might be one of the reason.
My dad is like that. He doesn’t get angry but insists on things to be done in a particular way. Khai yo TikTok ma live basney bajey haru ko kura sunera raicha.
Different bajey, different shastra.
Sometimes, he does make the environment so sour but we just adjust and try to lighten up his mood. And that’s how everything gets back to normal.
Period sakkina lako belama ni esto sudden anger haru aucha !Google it.Aama ho yaar timro naramro chahannan ,Bidesh gako bela thapathiye aama bau ko importance aile Nepal akochu paila sathi lai imp dinthe aile amavaulai belai ma buja hai dost
I used to think exactly like you about my mum during my +2. BUT after I came to ktm for my further studies I had to do everything that she had been doing since forever . I have to look after my elder and younger siblings, my dad while I’m also continuing my bachelor. Slowly everything started to make sense why my mother had to yell everytime. I started seeing my mother in myself, I realised maybe half of the pressure she’d been going through and couldn’t handle it at times. I started having serious issues , I used to burst out in tears out of nowhere, started feeling this hatred.
It’s okay if you don’t understand what I’m trying to tell cause back then I also didn’t understood my mother but now I do and I felt so guilty after. When my mom came to us for dashain, I wanted to let her know that I feel every ( most of the pain) she’s gone through.
Hey! I am really sorry this happened to you. Yo praya dysfunctional families maa huncha. Mamu ko case maa chai, if she is in her mid 40s or 50s, please take her to an Endocrinologist paila, and get some tests regarding menopause done. Irritability and mental health issues are very common among pre menopausal and menopausal women, because that is a very very hormonal time. And this causes alot of issues that manifests like this.
There is no cut and dry solution to this, it is a process. All the best to you!
what i do is, step back, calm down, breathe and talk very politely and very calmly mock them. politely telling them what they’re wronf about and why anger is not necessary at the moment will make them think about it. Also talking calmly when they’re shouting or are furious immediately gives you a little moral high ground. this requires some practice and is not the best solution, but it has worked for me.
That’s not good man. We never know what is going on their mind and there is always a reason trust me, trust your mom.
My mom has never shouted/rose hand on me, i ask her before i do anything but she always says yes and never asks for reason or anything related to it and i sometimes want her to say no or behave as(typical mom) but she trusts me very much and i have never broken that and never will.
Hard times will pass and good time will come soon, love and support your mother❤️.
Ps: I hate festivals especially when i have to be with relatives(fuckin snakes).
Festivals my ass
You are adopted brother sorry
Agree with the title but aint gonna read all that
Anything that you don’t do and doesn’t feel satisfactory to your standard should be done by you or you need to shut the fuck up.
Your mother needs to learn this shit. Either do it, or stop complaining when someone else does it.
my mom is also same. sometimes its too frustrating for us as we are not even able to handel ourselves. but they are also frustrated and people with anger issue are like that.
Generational trauma is hard to get out of people!! It’s hard work, and most of our parents even don’t see the way their childhood shaped them. So be compassionate, communicate when things are calmer, and build better relationship with your mom.
Time flies, and one tihar comes up and, you will wish she was with you nagging you.
kun age ma hunuhunchha? menopause huda halka hormonal issues haru le garera kei chid-chida hune issues haru aauna sakchha hai
tara moms are moms samjhauna sakidaina jasto bhanyo manna pani sakidaina, jhagada nai garnu parchha
family counseling le kei sajilo chai banauchha re hai
She’s probably going through her menopause.. I guess you need to understand her like she did when you were on your teenage rebellious behavior..