So one of my relatives who is rich is asking my mother for kidney me and my mom is lower middle class and my mom is considering giving kidney i have denied my mom and said that i will not agree but my mom wants see me in better place what should i do ??
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Your mom’s health> Any amount of money
Oh hell nah. Wealth << Health.
Pachi complications ayo bhane, bhako paisa ni sakincha. Don’t do this. There are many ways to earn money than this.
If I were you, I would die before letting that happen! No way I am letting my mom do that for me. Instead I would promise her to work hard and be successful by myself. Never let that happen man. Mom is one step above God.
you can’t even do a kidney transplant like this is nepal so they’ll probably have to go to india. the hospital staff treats the donor kinda badly and it will take MINIMUM 3 months. there’ll be false paperwork and your mom will have to use a fake name the whole time. the living conditions won’t be great unless they’re willing to pay good rent she’ll have to live with strangers who are also donating kidneys. do you wanna go through that?
source: family member recently had a kidney transplant
I don’t think it’s a good idea to improve your life by donating her kidney. You can earn any amount if you really work hard . On the other hand how much they gonna pay like 30 lakhs. Common you can earn in a year if you go abroad like Japan Korea USA Australia if you work hard .
Mom is mom bro, there will be so many restrictions to you’re mom health.
Don’t let her , it might become one of your regret.
I can never let that happen, all mom are like that. I know their intentions are good and they may even feel guilty for not being able to provide like others wealthy parents and but they fail to acknowledge their children feeling. I really hate that about life being tied to something you never wanted. How the fck can I sleep at night with guilt, pressure, responsibility and you never repay/make up for the sacrifice.
I would give both Kidneys if I have to for my Mom and Dad. Mom is only one. Baru road mai basdaa ni aama ko saath swarga ho. Jun din ama buwa chhutchhan ni, duniya ma kunai byakti le tyo sukha dina sakdaina. They are god. Please dont risk your moms life.
how will her giving the kidney help you? Like how much will your relatives pay? I dont think there’s any point to this unless its 5-6 crore. Not saying she should do it. Your mothers health truly is priceless. But what i mean is, purely based on what her intentions are, unless its 5-6 crore it wont really help you. Possibly might even just be a burden on your mental health. 5-6 crore because that can buy you true financial stability. Tyo vanda ghati ta k kam. Afai kam garera kamau saki halincha ni. Kidney nai bechne vaye ta kamse kam life time ma save garna sakne jati ta paunu paryo.
No money is greater when it comes to health brother. If u really want her not to do this then console her, tell her that uf she is doing this for your happiness then tell her that u wont b happy with that. Simple as that. And u need to work more in life.
Donating kidney is her choice, not a good one.
One thing, make sure she knows and realizes that it is her choice and not to use you as an excuse. Trust me, parents will forever say – Oh I did this for you and that for you. You will feel guilty and at their mercy for your life.
It is not a healthy way to for… for either of you. And what happens if she has kidney problems in future then what.
Also, how much is she getting? Will you be set for life?
Good luck.
I thought about this for a second. I normally would advise against a medical procedure that can be avoided. But a nagging feeling good me too be practical and stop thinking like someone privileged.
Practically thinking, if money can solve problems and relieve a financial burden, I would consider it. But not your kidney, your mom’s.
There are also other much more important practical matters to consider:
1. How healthy is your mom? Can she survive or thrive with just one kidney?
2. Is it confirmed that you will receive money for the good deed or just assumed? Confirmation in writing (like a contact) or payment in advance is probably a good idea.
3. Is the operation in a reputable place?
There probably are other things to consider but these are what I could think of.
p s. I am not OPs relative who needs a new Kidney. And I am not trying to be a contrarian
No. Prioritize her health. Or else, if she passes away due to complications, you will be full of regret.
Gosh, this is a tough situation, but remember it’s ultimately your decision. Talk openly with your mother about your concerns and fears. Together you can find a solution that works best for both of you.
A big No for this ..
You can’t sell mother for a shit papers …(money)
You will be responsible if anything bad happens while donating kidney of your mother because you had chance to stop that …
Think again ..
Thank you
No No
Mom’s love😭
Bruh paisa vaneko auxa hai health begrepaxi k garne paisa ko.
Relative po ho. Paisa nadina ni sakxa. Legally, paisa maagna ra dina paaidaina. Voli parsi diyena vaney legal avenue jaana ni apthero hunxa jasto laagxa. Ultai paisa ko laagi marimetne fake relative vanera stamp laaidina ber xaina.
10 lakh is very small amount
1 kidney is fine in some people but have to take care. Sign some contracts get the money first, I don’t know if there is some legal paper work but you can always do by getting a lawyer. Anything might happen be careful man.
You should not allow on any conditions, what if her health degrades and all the money is went in vain and of no use. Just tell her that her health matters to you the most than any amount of money in the world and you are happy with what you have. She has already sacrificed a lot for us and it’s our responsibility to take care of her in her old age. So it would be better to convince her not to do so or you will regret for the rest of your life. I hope you and your mom chose the best decisions for both of you and wish you a good life ahead
Here are my few cents:
(1) Donating kidney actually doesn’t do any serious harm to the Donor. That doesn’t imply selling kidneys is a good idea.
(2) According to the new legislation, only immediate relatives can receive a kidney. Those include – husband, wife, son, daughter, father, mother, step-son, step-daughter, step-mother, step-father, adopted son, adopted daughter, adopted father, adopted mother, grandfather, grandmother, grandson, granddaughter, nephew, niece, father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, son-in-law and daughter-in-law of the recipient.
If your relative is not one listed above, it’s very risky and cannot be done in Nepal as someone pointed out. Need to go to India and involve in some shady business. No legal basis for compensation if your so called relative balk out.
(3) Most important one is that transplanted kidney doesn’t last forever. Average is some 10 years. Remember KP Oli?
Then what if his new kidney fails? He will come after your kidney. The so called relative will use your family as kidney bank since you are needy and gullible.
Laws are made for some reasons, think about it.
You only need one kidney to lead healthy life style. Idk about money. It depends on case to case senerio and how close am/mother is to them.
10 lakh is a good amount of money but it doesn’t set you up for anything. Not worth it
One kidney is more than enough for a normal life.
Never let that happen bro. That’s not worth the kidney. It can be worth if your mom is healthy and survive in one kidney easily only if they are paying you 10 Crore otherwise it’s not. Coz after removing kidney there might be complications her body will be weaker so it’s worth is ur mom is healthy and they are paying 10 crore. So called relatives situation ko faida Lina khojyaxan, emotionally manipulate garera 😏. Mari halos Tyo jaslai kidney chaheko ho 😤
You will regret that for lifetime if it’s just because of money.
Health >>>>>> Wealth
You’re better off working and earning money. Don’t let ur mom donate her kidney just for some money. Money is temporary, it will end. But a person donating a kidney is permanent. Convince ur mom anyway u can to not give her kidney.
Not worth it. And don’t do it. Lot of complication. Not worth it.