I often find myself speaking harshly to my parents and sister, and I’m not entirely sure why. It usually happens when they give me lectures or life lessons that I feel are unnecessary. I try to hold back, but after about five minutes, I lose control and express my true feelings, making sure not to use vulgar language.
I do engage in heated arguments with some people, but those are usually focused on proving my points rather than being rude. However, when it comes to my parents and sister, I tend to be more candid about how I really feel about them. These are the three people with whom I often act rudely.
These days, I hate my family members because I feel they still hold onto old-fashioned beliefs and principles.
I often feel guilty about my rudeness towards my family, but at the same time, it seems like I don’t have any other choice but to act this way.
If there’s anything I can change and do better than please let me know.
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I’m convinced now that everyone goes through this phase. Yo generation gap le garda argument ta aleli bhai nai halcha. Maybe argument sakkesi, talk to them again ekchin pachi with a cool mind and clear the air, that’s what I do.
oi same ma. teenager phase chai haina kina ni teenager sakine bela bhaisakyo mero. kasto simple simple kura ma ni jharki halchhu k garne hola.
Thyakkai ma jastai raixau yar
Mero bau ama strict bhako bhaye tin barsa agadi ghar bata nikaldinthe hola..
bro is having camera on me.
Just don’t copy me
You sound like my brother
How old are you? I used to be like that when I was a late teen / in early 20’s.
Please allow me to generalize your question in a philosophical way.
Why do we do knowingly or unknowingly do things that we later regret or feel guilty about?
The answer is, either out of fear, or out of temptation.
Fear of being perceived as a useless bum. Fear of being scolded, fear of the unnecessary drama that unfolds after any reaction.
We automatically love ourselves the most, and we have a fear of being hated by friends, family and society.
Another is temptation. “I want this to happen, i want that to not happen. I want him/her to behave in a certain way.” And if the intensity of our desire is stronger than our knowledge of reality, we do things that we later regret.
In your specific case, you get angry because you are worried about how they think of you. You believe that they are perceiving you in a wrong way. You want to answer back so that you can prove your point. And aggression usually comes out so that you seem stronger.
It happens with everyone, but since you are questioning it, you have that curiosity about why these things happen.
If you want all the answers, start looking inside of you, and try to find out who(or what) you really are. That is the solution to all the worldly problems.
Ig that happens to everyone during teenage. Just stop replying instantly and talk to them after the whole thing is over.
Sometimes I’m also like that to certain people and later I regret it a lot and I am a grown up. Sometime it happens and realizing our mistakes and moving towards becoming a better person is what we should aim for.