So 3 of us were friends since 6 years. Recently 2 jana cahi arkai college ma gako chan. Different sections but same college. Ani I am afnu bato ma. I always treated both of them the same but they used to call each other “bestfriends” and all pailai dekhi. Paila paila hurt hunthyo but aile baani bhaisakyo. Paila atleast bhetne bela kura haru interesting hunthyo sab jana ek arka ko sunthyo and kura haru share garthyo. But aile they have new common friends group ani the entire time i meet them, they keep talking about their friends. They dont even know what am I doing in my life. Maile k job gardai chu, ma kaha study gardai chu. I have a guy ani we’re serious about it ani family lai bhanne type kura hudai thyo ani ma kya excited bhayera uniharu lai share garchu bhanera socheko but every time I started talking about this they cut me off ani uniharu kai college friends ko kura sunauna thalyo. They didn’t even listen to me. Paila bhetne bela ghar nai najam jasto hunthyo but recently ma ghar kaile jam geet sundai atleast I’ll feel good jasto huna thalisakyo.
I understand you meet different people life ko different stages ma ani you outgrow friends but how do I get rid of this unsettling feeling?
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You grew up. That’s all. Friendship bhanekai testai ho. It can change. It’s upto you to decide how you want your friends to be.
Even today I can still call my friends who I talked to 10-12 yrs ago and talk like we just met yesterday
It’s time to get a new friend.
Back then i was a bit outgoing, ( a very introverted person and kind of an outcast now) class 8 ma 3 jana sathi ko group thiyo, 9 class ma our sections changed, ma euta class ma, ani 2 jana sangai arko class ma. We used to go home together but after sections changed, they made another group and never used to wait for me to go home together, i used to go alone. Once, ti dui jana ma ek jana ko ghar ma chahi internet thiyo, mero ghar ma chahi thiyena and i needed premiere pro, so i went to his home on my cycle, called him. He came out and i asked him,” pendrive lera aaxu, premiere pro rakhdeu na” and he directly said, ” nai rakhdinna”, i was like what? jiskeko ho jasto lagyo so i said,” majak nagara na, rakhdeu lau” and he was serious, Just said no and sent me home. That was the end. I stopped talking to both of them, uniharu kai 7-8 jana ko group banaudai hidthe paxi, i didn’t really care. 10 class paxi i became way way too introverted and became a very quiet person. I am by myself and i like that.
i suggest you to stay away from them and make new friends, don’t get too upset, you’re gonna meet a lotta better people in your life.
Life is a series of meeting new people
I left my old group of friends from school and that was the most exhilarating and freeing experience in my life. I suggest you do the same. They will call you and make you feel like you’re wanted but as soon as you know your worth, you will not be fazed by them. I wish you all the best to your new found independence and outlook on life and don’t ever let anyone tie you or bring you down. They are no longer your friends, but mere acquaintances now; so just let go of them.
went through this +2 ma huda pohila nai, a good solution is to make new friends. Life goes on, sabai kura change hunxa time anusar. Make new friends from your own section and go with the flow, chill ma basne sabai accept garne cause this is life, it is what it is.
That’s what life is unfortunately. You lose some people, but you also meet some more. Some stay, some don’t and sometimes you leave some. But you just embrace all the changes and roll with it.
They’ve moved on. It’s time you do too. I don’t think there’s anything malicious in their part, just times and circumstances have changed. Keep in touch, cherish what you had, but yea, it’s time you moved on as well.
Share how you feel about the whole situation..If they sre respectful of your feelings and considerate, that’s best..Else move on.. It’s easy for me to say but that’s how you have to create boundary so that it doesn’t affect you.. Wuniharu sanga vayera ni eklai hunu ani ghar ma aayera kina gayechu sochnu vanda baru distance maintain garnu nai bes no?
Lets accept nothing is permanent. 🙂
Timle ekchoti uniharu ko aagadi yo kura rakhana. timlai testo tiniharu le kura ignore garda kasto feel huncha sabai bandeu jj kura timlai chitta bujeko chaina bhana.tini haru lai ni timro bare kei kura chitta nabuje ko hola.kei misunderstanding vayeko vayeni resolve vaisakcha .Ani yeso garda uniharu le afno mistake realize gare rw sabai jana ko kura milyo bhane tw bayo.6 yrs ko friendship yetikai chodnu ni better hudaina aakhir aaile timi haru ko circumstances namilera pani yesto huna sakcha afno pride narakhi sabai vana uniharulai sayad kura bujlan and resolve vai sakla. Ani yedi tesari kura rakdha ni timro kura rw feelings lai value garena rw pheri testai garyo bhane maybe it is what it is bhani farki nahera chadeu..They wanted this they didnt want u in their life vanne kura buja.Timle sabai kura banda pani timro bare care garenan bhane tw k layo rw.Aafnai bato hideu pachi pheri kura milyo rw uniharu le timro value thapayo bhane thikai cha natra people come and go itss okk let them go if ur bond breaks in between.
TLDR: I am too much of a pussy to confront my friends about my feelings.
Nepali people are not worthy of being friends, they hated me by my scar in my face and judged me because of emotional trauma. Nepal is heaven but all devil’s named nepali live here.
ma timro shoes maa vako vaye “100 barsa agadi samma manxe haru arkai arkai group maa join garyo vane family sanga nii vidnu parthyo jaabo sathi k ho, aile ko time maa population ni dherr xa” sochera move on garthye tara mero sathi le asti fb bata herera vandeithyo “suffer sabai ko laagi garnu parxa aru option paauna alik rare xa tesaile suffer garna worth hune manxe khoj”
People change with time. Sooner or later everyone does.
On a different note There are very good chances So will the boyfriend you are talking about. Relationship start garda saabai suru ma sabai serious nai hunchhan, pachhi gayera problem haru aune ho.
Varkhar College ma raichhau, both of you are still learning a lot and not finished shaping yourself. By the end of this, he might come out as different person and that might not be the same person you fell in love with and vice versa. Aile ghar ma vanera relationship ma complication add nagarekai ramro. padhai bigreni tetai dosh dinchhan, kei succesful vayena vane ni tei lai dosh chhan. feri 4-5 barsa ko relation chhuteko ni yehi nai chhan.
Ani Pachhi pariwar le k vayo vanera sodda vanna garo hune raicha. If this doesnt workout(the probabillity that it will is veryy lesss given that you are young), yespachi aune arko relation lai ghar ma vannaa jhan gaaro huncha. Remember the era your parents are from and what might go into their minds if they see you changing partner.
Personal experience ra wari pari ko haru bata ni dekhera vandaichhu . Dont do it unless its at least couple of years.
Everyone changes and changes for good. Now change is upon you. You’ll have to change yourself and your company. Everyone is selfish so they are talking about them, make a guy friend he will definitely listens to you. I mean I am a guy friend so rest a sure he will listen. One will catch feelings and after a while you will either be in relationship, stop talking or things will be plutonic.
I think every girl and boy needs a opposite sex close friend regardless have feelings for each other or not.
We meet new people all the time. Life happens. You’ll meet new people, new friends. If they don’t care about your presence, may be you’re not supposed to be there. Don’t be harsh on yourself.
bro, don’t be childish. yesto sano sano kura ma chitta dukhauna hudaina
dude get new friends.
Your name suggests, you are different from them. Don’t drain yourself into these types of thoughts. School and college circle doesn’t last long after around 24-25. Later on you will find some good circle that fits your type. There are no options in school and college so its always some one has to adjust.
Recently I came upon a post similar to this ani r/Nepal ani one user commented jata janu huncha tehi sathi banaunus sathi ko pachi afno “ship” najanus.