i am class 12 passout this year and i have give an entrance exam of engineering (TU) and i get a decent rank about on 1500 . My family expectation was on top 500 so that i could study pulchowk on civil faculty and i couldn’t make it their expectation . I was topper nerd kid since my child days and i was studying on full scholarship on private boarding till class 12 . When my entrance result came out all my family expectation does not meet then suddenly i feel lonely and depressed and can’t make talk with my family too. All of my relative asked my result and when i said i couldn’t make it to pulchowk then they said yesle tw” kai garna sakenaxau and falono ko xora le ni nikalexa k gareko babu “in front me which even makes me on depressed state . I don’t have so much friend so that i could share this topic. the things gots worse when even my father doesn’t speak frankly with me when i discussed what should i do. this things making me more depressed and have a feeling of failure . This tihar festive season gone as traumatic and emotionally weaken for me .
What should i do to get this move on for this ?
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1500s rank is better than what I got. Even my Bachelor studies sucked. But I worked hard and today I am in a better status than those with rank in 500s.
Perseverance matters, Rank doesn’t. I say you believe in yourself and have confidence. Exceed your expectations and shut the mouth of those who belittle you.
K padhni ho aba tesko tayari gara. Vayena aba tyo. Jati saktheu gareu tya vanda badhi ta k nai garni ho ra. Ki ta take 1 year gap ani feri entrance digera expectations samma puga(aaruko) ki ta ahilei aaru kunai ma padha. Parents le expect garepaxi tyo pura garna sakiyena vanesi kei garna mildena. Aafno life aafno expectations aanusar hida.
If you live your life fulfilling other’s expectations, you’ll always live for others.
If you live your life having your own realistic goals, you will be able to live for yourself.
Also, going above and beyond to satisfy other’s expectations is a slippery slope with no end in sight. You’ll keep spiraling because you won’t ever to meet all of the expectations. Now it might be a good rank at entrance, next it will be university topper, next it will be the best paying job etc etc and all of it will dictate your life for you..you’ll be in a race against yourself.
It is better to practice acceptance to the things you can’t control or change. Accept,.move on, and make use of whatever circumstances life hands you till you become capable to change the things you cannot accept.
Parents set high expectations on the hopr that you will give your best and m pretty sure they are still happy that you got 1500 .. they raised you from child so they probably know that you tried your best and got what you are capable of.
And relatives yeah fuck them…they aren’t the one giving exams or studying. giving bad opinions is their job so you can just ignore them
Bro college ma auni bela vayesi tyo topper nerd kid birse ni hunxa.
Ramro degree ani ramro college ma majority were topper nerd kids. Eta ayesi pass huna garo parxa 😔