Hello, all Nepali brothers and sisters. I am a 22-year-old guy going through something I can’t really explain. Ever since I was young, I didn’t pay much attention to girls and mainly have fun with my guy friends. I didn’t talk to girls much when I was a kid, but that wasn’t a big deal.
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In 11th grade, a girl purpose me from my class , , cause I was just a kid. i block her and stop talking she sent me her selfies or photos and asked me which one is good to put on her facebook . i blocked her on Facebook after that . I’m not sure why I did that. I also stopped talking to her in college, but after two months , she got a boyfriend from a higher grade, and I felt jealous, though I don’t know why.
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Before this, I used to enjoy playing games, cricket, and basketball with my friends, but after that incident, I lost interest in everything. I felt something strange that’s hard to describe. In the 12th grade, my problem got worse. Whenever I saw a girl from the same caste, I’d dream about , sharing my thoughts , marrying her, stalk her on social media, and that was it. Now, when I see any girl, I just think about talking to her, sharing my thoughts, and maybe making her my girlfriend, but nothing happens. I’ve lost interest in everything, and I don’t know why. I don’t feel sad, but I’m not sure what’s happening.
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I’m currently studying civil engineering, but around 90% of my problem remains a mystery. It’s not about being lonely because I talk to lots of friends. I get jealous when I see couples, which is why I don’t use social media, so I don’t have to see their pictures and feel jealous. But I’m still not sure what’s going on with me, and it’s affecting my interest in studying, playing, or doing anything else.
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>didn’t pay much attention to girls
>a girl purpose me
>. i block her
>she got a boyfriend
>I felt jealous,
>Whenever I saw a girl from the same caste, I’d dream about , sharing my thoughts , marrying her, stalk her on social media
>lost interest in everything
>I get jealous when I see couples
Go for therapy, dude.
cant say anything about your past problems but your current problem is doing engineering. as a fellow engineer, i can say that its the root of all problems
have the same problem but much younger,minus the propsal
Bro i had a kind of similar phase like yours. When i was 16 and 17 i was addicted to playing computer games as well. I isolated myself for a few months which made me lack communication skills. Then slowly i started to work on my social skills. Started meeting people, went on many dates. Was single till 20 then finally had my first relationship.
Almost been 2 years and we are still together. So my advice to you is go out and enjoy. The right person will come by. Live life while you’re still young.
That was a little extreme bruh. You should’ve just rejected her proposal peacefully, then you wouldn’t have been consumed by guilt like this.
You should get a girlfriend then
anon blocks girl who propose him
u aint no simp, ill tell u that much
Lack of female interaction is the root cause. Try talking with them more often.
Maybe you’re asexual?
Bro relationship bhanda ni you need some female interaction. College ma if you have any female classmates, try having conversations with them. J bhaye ni bolna try gara. Homework gareu, ya euta simple good morning is also enough.
Whats the problem you see in yourself when I say you approach a girl you like and start a conversation with her ? Are you afraid of her ignoring you ? Well.. it truly doesnt matter instead you’ll start your learning curve. Are you afraid at failing something ? Let me save the suspense, there isnt a single person in this world who hasnt failed. Are you afraid that she’ll judge you ? before she judges you judge yourself firsthand and prepare a comeback argument. Are you confused how to start a conversation with a girl ? Well, you can simply break the ice by saying Hi and smiling and taking about the things that are happening at that present moment. Girls are human too. They know most boys are socially awkward and its totally normal for them to understand that boys are shy and weird when it comes socially interacting with girls. Now that you have stated all of your problem its time to take action. No, life wont happen by itself you have to make it happen by taking action to your problem dude.
Gym jau bro
My brother turned into a hopeless romantic after rejecting a girl
I’m in Nepal studying abroad from America. Never had the biggest interest in girls, I have a similar story with one girl, but minus the proposal as that is different in America.
You seem to be lost due to a unconscious desire to have a romantic relationship. I do the same fantasy stuff sometimes, but it doesn’t bother me. Is it not possible to speak to any girls in classes? Maybe join a study group and meet some girls your age? It seems hard, but it is not impossible.
Forgive my American mind for wishing to share! I hope this helps!
weirdo
engineering le gaand haniraxaina bro?
Us bro us
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Once Consult specialist man
A solid fap works
Kti pauda pauda kina vau khako.
It’s not unnatural for a 22 year old guy, who’s never been in a relationship before to look at a good looking couple and not want that.
But start working on yourself, develop skills that make you more interesting, try to act more confident around others and exercise. Get yourself in shape, the better you look the more confident you’ll get. If you don’t have many datable girls at your college(which sounds probable), then try dating apps. There’s always a way if you try, don’t lose hope.
# Gym jau bro.
If you have time, then read the attraction code or the art of seduction(book pdf) to boost your game and get back in the dating scene and eventually all the problems will go away.
tension na liu. koi kt le aba interest dekhayo vaney try gara na. just chill out. relation ma basera heaven pugidaina. jaba time auxa ani jaba timi ready hunxau taba afai timro kura milxa. halka try ta afu le ni garna parxa tara flow flow ma afai hunxa so, don’t worry bro
Focus gara padhai mai kt ma bhuleu bhne jindagi jhand huncha.
Explore the reality bro. Have a sight of different things, experience new thing definitely not drugs, be open minded, think of being open mind on the things which is affecting you the most of times, making two bars and start writing pros and cons of being around girls, trying new thing which you want to do. Do not isolate your thinking capabilities in a circle, try to expand.
Seek advice from sub Redditers from different nation like in Germany people have bra less beaches I.e people have views on girls your head can never think of and other many things which you are facing.
You look so desperate my lil bro. I know it is important to have a partner, but it is more important to focus on yourself.
Work upon yourself, your personality, your behaviours, your manners, etc because these things matters too. Be confident, know what you are speaking. Be friendly. Bistarai hune kura ho, don’t rush.
If you are talking to a girl, don’t act desperate and treat her like a normal girl. I mean, treat your classmate and crush the same way.
Society brainwashed you thinking talking with a girl is bad. It made you religious but when she hooked up with another male, your inner desire knew that you could have things with her. The purpose of life is to make love, not just study until you are 30. You missed a great thing in life, you will regret it forever.
Read this guys reply and you won’t wonder why he single and desperate 🤷♂️
Have you ever had conflicting thoughts about your feelings towards guys??
Bhai tu bada ho gaya hai, baccho ke khel khilono se ab Tera man nhi lagega.
What a coincidence 😂 same yestai vhako thiyo mero ni hahaha. Halka mero kahani ni vanxu hai. I hope timlai kei help hola.
Let’s go back to my school life. I was a popular cute
guy according to the ladies of my school but I was very shy ani even if I dare to talk to girls my toxic friends circle mock me the worst. Khattam sathi haru aafu ni kti haru sanga bolna na khojne aru lai ni jiskayera ruwaidine. School ma tannai kti le approach gare tara sab lai avoid 💀. Tes paxi tyo toxic gang xuityo aba college ma halka fulka kti haru sanga bolna thaliyo. Ek jana ghar sangai vhayeko karan le halka close vhaiyo but no hard feelings – just friends – tes paxi u bata thaha paiyo mero barema ladies gang ma kurakani hudo rahexa vanne thaha vho.
Then euta kti le approach gari ani same case as you bro but kahele testo jealous vhaina usko arko bf vhaye pani.. +2 sakiyo ani new friends khasai hudaina so tyo luxury of being around alot of kti ghatdai janxa.. It depends on person aba ali extrovert le sathi banai rakhxa but the guys like u and us were grown totally different, kta haru ko group, sports ma badi dhyan sanai dekhi.. Ani yo point ma chai feel hunxa mero ni eso gf vhako vhaye 😂, aru ko dekhera jealousy hune. Again Feri gf ASAP banau na sakinxa jasto vhayeni….. Ek na ek jana tw kaso hos yo sansar ma but sadly aarko din feri hya tai na tui ko जो paya tei lai k gf banaunu feel hunxa. And the circle continues..
Lost vhako jasto lagxa bro i agree
But, jaba life ma aafno goal set hunxa ni then u kinda actual start living. Aba I know what to do with my life, mero priority tei ni ho relationship vanda, most of my days happily bitxa.. Aafu ma change lyaunu parxa first ma, past kura samjihna thalyo vane dukha pauxa bro sabai lai thaha xa. Ek dum positive attitude ma agi badnu paryo..
Please don’t mind hai eti dherai lekheko ma
What i think about this matter is that your hormones are at peak and u still has not complete your teenage life mentally thats my theory only. And common dude life is more than girls. Life doesnt give u what u want , it gives the things u deserve and are better.