I am a introvert person with social anxiety i can’t open up with people that fast i need some time too be comfortable around people. Recently i just joined uni and i feel very socially awkward and don’t know what to do , how to blend in with my class mates?
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One thing for sure that you do not need to make friends with same age. You can make a good friend with any age.
Force yourself to go to cafes alone, get a book or anything you like to do and do that daily or when you have time. Interact with the waiters, compliment them. Their smile would make you love socializing. You don’t need friends, you need people.
Join Volunteer works which needs a lot of public interaction.
two best advice i can give you is:
1. find whatever is common with other people, work, classes, hobbies are the easiest as you share same burden and people feel comfortable with people with the same burden in life. people need so less to bond. the tricky part is continuation.
2. Be open about your introvertedness and social anxieties so who could possibly be friends with you know about your situation and dont have room to think that you are cold and unfriendly when you are having an episode of your anxieties.
Also realize , not everyone is your cup of tea and you arent everybody’ cup of tea either.
The best thing you can do for yourself is being at peace with who you are. It is exhausting to try to be somebody you’re not.
That being said, while you’re still young, it is quite possible to develop some social skills you never had or never thought you could develop. One tip I can give is that you should start saying “yes” more often to more things. A invitation to a party? Yes.
A random ad on a magazine that asks if you’re interested in a boat cruise? Say yes. Yes, this is a rip off from the movie “yes man”, but it really is a game changer.
What I don’t understand is why are so many people of young generation suffering from social anxiety. People of earlier generation had no such problem. Is it the result of bad parenting or internet addiction or too much comparison to become perfectionist?
Jado xa bro ailey afno ora para katai aago tapirako thau mah jau gayerw tetai sano space mah comfortable huna sika. You will make many blunder ani bolna ni man lagdinw but you have to go out and face it.
I’m not even an introvert and yet I have almost no friends. Most I have are outside Nepal or outside ktm, still in touch but just virtually.
I am in similar situation. i can be your friend if you want to. if you are in Nepal, we can even meet and have guff gaff you know
if you cant start a conversation on your own, dont stress abt making friends too much, since you’re in uni, you will eventually have ppl coming to talk to you. And if you really wanna make friends talk to them, help them when they come to you
Here’s what worked for me:
If you can’t take initiative to go talk to them, make them come to you. One way to do it is to be involved in hobbies and things you have interest in and let people notice you. People with similar interest will definitely approach you.
Small Talk initiation with everyone. This will just be a small step to boost your confidence. Try making small conversation with parents, chimeki aunty, rent ma basne manche, pasal ko uncle aunty. Conscious Small baby steps helps
Learn sports and games
it’s ok. who cares. be yourself.
2 or 3 fren is enough.
and you have enough time to choose your fren.
take it slow.
Try spreading sauces
As an introvert myself the only advice I can give you is try and find someone with similar interests and hobbies as yours and then bond over them with the other person and gradually develop a friendship
gandu, Bolera. afno bichar arulai sunayera. 10 ma 1 ta soch milne micha kohi na kohi
Join a discord group.
Break the ice first take your time talk to them be selflessly helpful and generous you will automatically attract people. Manifest good friendships