sidha kura k bhanda khero mero baba mummy ko relationship dekhera sarai dukha lagcha. mero baba chahi sarkari officer ho ekdam high post manche bhanum na ani mom is also well educated retired teacher . Mom le literally society ko lagi matra bhaye ni divorce nagarya jasto lagcha ahile chahi. baba le mummy le esto dominate garcha omg ekdam mental torture nai . kei kura share nagarne aru ko agadi hochyaera kura garne . even hat pani uthako cha ek choti( that i know of ) baba out of valley ho kam garne nata ta kei update huncha life ko mummy sanga
Mom ghar ma eklai huda netnai off gardine .
eklai ghumirakhnu bhako huncha pariwar ko matlab chaina . tyo as a family share garnu parne kura kei pani garnu hunna jaile hamilai bhanda cousin lai prority deko cha financially pani .
ek dam moody society ma chahi ramrai ijjat cha tara ghar ma dui paisa ko byahawar chaina
yo dashain ko bela ma jaile kura lai liyara ajhai hunt huncha malai . Esto ego cha baba ko omg.
As i grow older yo kura kasto huge deal ho bhanne kura ajhai bujdai chu ani tesle jhan dherai affect garirako cha malai .
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Level of pettiness, WiFi ni off gardine , I wish nepal ma too divorce was normalised. People here take pride in the less divorce rates we have , but don’t actually talk about why . Are we really better than foreigners? Or do we just shame divorcees enough so that people stay in loveless , abusive marriages rather than face society’s critic.
pretty common in nepal, i’m much older than you i’m sure, my parents are in their 60s now. my childhood full of their fights, 1 image of mom bleeding from her mouth, intermittent arguments all the time. i remember as a teenager telling my dad “one more fight and i’m out of this house” and they stopped the physical fights, but to this day they use phrase like “tero mummy le bhaneko esto” or “tero daddy esto” lol.
thankfully i don’t care much about primates doing primate things out of unhealthy and unfulfilled ego, so i don’t blame them much. they love me and i try to teach them how to love each other. i’m glad they never divorced, both of them are pretty illiterate but i like my family now. more sane and coherent, no anger. it took years to teach my dad how to be not angry. he’s just a product of uber patriarchal society we have. hope it’s slightly better now.
focus on your own sanity and try to think of them as imperfect monkeys, like we all are. we repeat things without much comprehension. be the comprehending one.
I’m sorry I’m not expert. But I really feel that your dad kinda knows your mom is a very worthy women. He’s very insecure about it. Men have fragile egos. I’m sorry you’ve to deal with this. It’s highly likely that your mom won’t ever divorce him. You gotta learn to deal with that somehow and protect your mom. Fight on her side a little bit. Dads often become scared of their children develop hatred for them. That’s the only way rn.
even i had similar experience during childhood…mero chai father ekdamai risaune manxe…without reason nai mood off bhayera mukh fulayera basne jaile pani….maina ko tei 2 3 din jasto chahi mood ramro bhako hune aru bela chai jaile mood off hune..boldai nabolne …sano sano kura ma ni risaune , karaune…mero chai mummy dherai nai sojhi hunu huntyo …bau le j bhaneni sahera basne jawaf nafarkaune…tei bhayera jhagada chai hudaintyo kahile pani….feri ghar ma matra ho risaune, ghar bahira ko manxe sanga tw jaile hasera bolne kahile narisaune… was such a traumatic childhood …ghar ma janai manlagdaina thyo…i used to notice ki non of my friends father were like this…mero matra bau kina yesto bhako hola jasto lagthyo…but aile 10 year jati bhayo poila ko bhanda dherai kam bhayo aile chai…..my mum later told me ki she even had thought of commiting suicide multiple times, only thing that stopped her was her love for me and my brother ani we were small..hamro bijog hunxa bhanera matra ho re…if we were already grown up enough she would have commited it re…..
Tei bhayera mero daddy sanga testo ramro bonding nai xaina….i don’t have any kind of hatred or dislike for him ..i love and respect him ….tara uhako risaune bani ko karan ekdum dar lagne ani kura pani nahune tei bhayera testo khale bonding nai bhayena…aile ni even when we live in same house i don’t talk to him yetikai…tei kam paryo bhane matra ho…
Stand up for your mom treat her right brother. That’s all I can say. I made mistake by not taking her stand as I was young and didn’t knew what was going. Now she is gone and I regret it everyday wish I was matured early.
If I were you I would stand up for your mom. I have seen this in my family. Once you do it he will have rethink couple of time before dominating your mum.
Your age ?
Any siblings??and their age ??
People in Nepal are proud of less divorce rate hamro sanskriti hera ka buda lai xodera janxa ka buda lai xodxa even youtube patrakar goes to stop divorce saying sanskriti. But whats on the stake here happiness you will be dying inside you cant wear what you want, cant talk to this that person, and even if you are qualified you gotta stay home. Every Nepali moms are superheroes they sacrifice their life for you and your egostic dads so stay by her side and show her much love let her know good days are coming and do good things for her.
Dui janai lai sngai rakhera divorce grna layera ananda snga basna vana
Sameee mero jastai condition cha ta bro.. i thought someone is just saying my story…😴😴
same as my dad, he literally donot care abt her. how can someone be so terrible husband,, 🤐
mero dadle. momsanga respectfully boleko ta
never seen in my entire life
jaile kura katyo. momko relative haru sanga
raksi khayo karaayo
Her life is hard and h3 s making it super hard.. 😒
People may or may not like their spouse, but almost all parents dearly love their kids. Talk to your dad in private and express your feelings. Let him know that poor treatment of mom means he will be farther apart from your life as well.
Maybe they’re not cousins and they’re siblings?
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Have someone make a fake account on facebook and text your father wither one of two things. Check if he’s a cheater if he is you can persuade your mother to divorce him. Or have the person with the fake account text him back and forth a few times then bomb him with scary things like I am a person living in the same village. I see the problems you have with your beautiful wife. I see she is lonely. If you don’t get your act together and treat your family right then one day when your out cheating I will come and love them😉 and so on.
I know it’s not right but maybe necessary? Especially if he’s weak on the inside and saying something to shatter his ego.
Hey! Just a suggestion but therapy may help you deal with family dysfunction issues.
What I learnt by far in my life, is that the only way you fix things is by not becoming like ur parents in ways that u don’t like about them. Also if u have a partner, u gotta share ur experiences with them to make things work out between you two to not be like ur parents.
We do have great options to make it work in our generation, thanks to tech. Parents didn’t have that at first, so maybe we should sikply forgive them, and thank them for sacrificing themselves for us. Meanwhile, encourage mom to make new friends and give her ample opportunity… 😊
Bro, I can only pray for strength to ur mother to take a step for her peace. Also stay strong bro, this might affect ur mental extremely. So, take care of urself
Yaha kura share garnu vanda bes afnu buba lai vana.. Sayad kehi hola ki..
Brahmin ho?
Maybe spend some times at hajur buwa/ama ko ma if possible,, eklai chodeu bau lai lol
This is a basic high level bureaucrat/ policemen behavior. Most of the people I know in a higher position of a government job are like this. Even the businessmen I know (filthy rich) are a lot more humble even if they’re corrupt. Sometimes your power eats you up so much that you think you’re above everyone else. Very common in a country like Nepal where the society will pretty much accept anything if you have enough power and money.
Sad but true…
Seems like your father is not respected enough in the family. Show some appreciation.